Sex Talk with Lou

Lou discusses current media she has done. I am the Vice-Chair for the fund raising council that is finalizing the Dr. Joycelyn Elders Chair in Sexual Health Education. Former US Surgeon General Dr Elders knows that sexual health education is the key to ending the poverty cycle of 'babies having babies". If or a loved one identifies with Dr. Elders and her legacy please contact me about potential donations to the Elders Chair. I was one of four YourTango.com Experts @ living together + or - before marriage. FYI - do not practice Psychic Sex or Psychic Relationships. Ornabakes.com blog that I am posting to @ body image and self esteem. I cover Week #2 of Seven Days of Sexy. I talked about Week #1 last week. Given Manners, Etiquette and Deportment were my specialty before I started talking about sex I see a direct correlation between the two. I LOVE Judith Martin's Miss Manners book and pull references from there during the show.

There are times when we all need to be open to learning about things and sex is no different. The best thing about growing up is you see different ways and options to look at something you thought you already knew....like sex. Creating the Perfect Partner. Lou and Di look at How do you become vulnerable? To let someone in when you are newly dating? The Week ! of Seven Nights of Sexy Lou created for ornabakes.com founder Orna Purkin. The power of Intimacy versus sex. And lots more.

Madeleine Castellanos M.D. Psychiatrist www.reclaimyoursexuality.com When I had Dr. Castellanos on 3 weeks ago I knew I had to have her back to address the growing impact of medications on people's sex lives. People, we have a real problem of the lack of transparency of drugs impact on your bodies, our ability to fall in love, and this impact wave hasn't even crested yet. #1 Question I ask parents to let them know how crucial this is - " Do you want to have grandchildren?" We are medicating people out of their ability to fall in love, stay in love and know what love is. Here are some topics we'll cover, and I want to start the trend of how to get off them and return their brain and sexual function. That is a very Big Job. Chemical Imbalance. Brain imbalance. My understanding is there is no theory for this and no demonstrated state of chemical imbalance. It is a physician’s way to suggest and urge a person take prescriptions. (Stuart Shipko) According to data obtained from IMS Health, the number

Once a month I like to look at some of the more prominent sex stories in any media. I go from Glamour magazine articles - adult star James Deen's awareness of what adult films are for and that the actors are more professional than many think, the things a $200,000 matchmaker will tell you NOT to do if you want to meet someone, dating concierge Laurie Davis of eflirtexpert.com suggestions.  My thoughts on Melissa Gorga's new book Love Italian Style that that spurred Tracie Egan Morrisey's Jezebel piece saying she Advocates Marital Rape.  To me reads in part like a Rules throwback and in part her relationship and what works for THEM. I compare the Glamour article "Why No One Is Getting their Period" and a previous HuffPost Live interview I did on The Pull-Out Generation. And I am suspicious it is 'advertorial' for Merck's 4 page color spread ad for Nexplanon that followed 15 very thin pages later. The new program Micheal Russer and I are creating to refine, build and create intimacy and connection. Dr. Madelein

Valerie Ramsey - Author of Creating What's Next Gracefully. Valerie began a mid-life corporate career at 53, started modeling at 63, and became a published author and speaker at 68. This is a woman on a mission with a message. We'll discuss How your relationship and sexuality are tied to all areas of your life and the changes one experiences in a long term marriage. What part is Gracefully in life, sex? in attitude? What part is the emotional connection and how to keep it. What were some of the myths that people told her as a young bride. Who are her role models and why? Sex toys and lubes.

As a Certified Sex Educator I am ALWAYS looking for experts in various fields who can deliver great solid easily understandable information about sexuality...in ALL areas. New York City based Dr. Castellanos hits that mark. www.reclaimyoursexuality.com We'll discuss among various subjects; Sexual fantasies, What WOULD a penis tell a Woman?, Trends she sees in her practice, Impact of stress on sex, Importance of sexuality education in Med Schools, HuffPostLive segment I did today, Pull-out Generation and more.

This week I discussed GREAT LOVER Behavior, Attitudes and Techniques from my book, The Great Lover Playbook. I also cover suggestions at the end on how to choose sex toys. After this week's casting of Dakota Johnson and Charlie Hunnam sparked more conversations @ Fifty Shades of Grey, in an upcoming show I will share How To Get The Most Out of Fifty Shades of Grey, in positions, in toys, in food, in ambience, in attitude, in music etc.

This is my week to talk about what I see in the news, what makes me crazy, great manual techniques women and men, info interchangeable depending on your body. Seduction meals. Starting with a gf of mine who is heading back into dating, last week's guest, Fiona Fine of Goddessconnections.com had some great advice, Date Like a Man. FYI - Miley Cyrus wasn't twerking on the VMA stage, suggestive and activity that will get eyeballs on the screen which is what producers and advertisers want. Would Montana Judge Baugh have given the same sentence to a 52 yo man who raped his 14 granddaughter? Me thinks NOT!! Starting October 1st, I will be doing a NEW, invitation only, live coaching Webinar 4 Weeks to Extraordinary Intimacy with Micheal Russer. This will be a live coaching webinar for Couples and Singles who know they want extraordinary emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy. Contact me at office@loupaget.com for consideration. Myopic Vision Clouds Science. I adore science and the scientific study of

My guest is the entreprenuerial Fiona Fine who is the founder of two female-centric personal fact finding online magazines. Howtoputthefunbackintodating.com and, WomenWhoRunIt.com. Born of her own search for pleasure and passion when she ended a long term marriage that had neither Fiona first created GODESSCONNECTIONS.COM How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating: Bringing Joy Back Into Your Lovelife! and then Women Who Run It: Your Life - Your Love - Your Terms! was created. Fiona Fine, Editor-in-chief is a self-glorified Goddess and Dating Expert in her early 50's. After a long, unfulfilling and unsatisfying relationship and years in the corporate world, she decided to put the pleasure back into her existence and to start living life purely on her own terms. She is the founder of Goddess Connections and started the movement: How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating where she helps women turn their dating lives around. She is also the Editor-In-Chief of Women Who Run It: Your Life - Your Love - Your Terms! a

I am thrilled to have my dear friend and colleague Dr. Mark Schoen of @SexSmartFilms.com on this week's #SexTalkWithLou. As a top sex educator for over 30 years Mark has created one of the best go-to resources for sex education films. His user friendly massive collection is used by educational professionals, therapists and Joe and Jane Q Public. And I mean ALL types of films. We'll discuss What are the trends in sex education films? Which country makes the best? How are we doing here in the US? What areas need more content? Being politically correct what are some growing terms that need to be incorporated into our sexual lexicon:, #genderquerying, #genderneutral. Then I want to cover his incredible documentary TRANS, about transgender stories that will touch your heart and give anyone more insight into the journey of transgender individuals.

Imagine a man saying “ED is the BEST thing that has ever happened to my intimate life!” Tonight's show is a very different practical message for any man or their partner who has dealt with or is dealing with Impotency. Given the epidemic of impotency men and their partners are experiencing from life and stress, injuries, surgeries, medical treatments and medications Michael Russer's upcoming book (2014 release) “HARDLY BROKEN – One man’s journey to extraordinary intimacy in the face of full impotence” is a timely and much needed book. For both the man on the street and his partner and those of us in the arena of sexual health. Our world of education expands when people such as Micheal share with others about his positive experiences. FYI - You can go to http://hardlybroken.com to pre-register for various benefits prior to his book being published. BIO: Michael J. Russer Beginning in September of 2011 Michael began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radi

Karla Scott, Director of Sales for Eldorado Trading Company will give us an insider's view of the world of selling sex toys to retailers across the country. This will be a VERY fun conversation!!!! Karla and I will talk about how she creates and tailors Eldorado's marketing of adult novelties to their national and international retailers. She is the boots on the ground AKA sales reconnaissance for her company. Given that Colorado based Eldorado is one the top US based distributors and has 16,000 SKUs and over 300 different vendors she has many options to help her retailers choose the best for their customers. How does she answer, "What is the best vibe? What about this lube?" Her answers lie in education and training, gathering the best products which is an Eldorado focus and training the sales staff so they have the best possible information BEFORE they talk to customers and don't learn in a trial by error fashion. She brings her 22 years of executive background, Fortune 500 (UPS Sr. Account Exec.) a

Starting with Sex in The News, I mean really could there be more??? One of my favorite guests, Dian Wiley, Ph.D., sex therapist based in Seattle and I will look at two of the most common and toughest sexual issue categories: 1) Cheating and 2) Boredom. Pay attention while two seasoned sexuality experts give their best ideas, solutions and possible options for people and couples to use and consider. Let's start with how does a couple define cheating? There are as many definitions as there are people. Dr. Diana will discuss what possible cognitive (why you thought to do it) and behavioral (practical behaviors to change/adjust/add) techniques she might use to address this. That couples who remain together typically fall into one of 3 categories and which category they are in determines if they will be satisfied afterwards or just stick it out. Hardly what one wants to do for the rest of their life Boredom - so who's responsible for entertaining you???? Really if you are an adult it is about taking a p

Seriously there is sooo much about sex and its impact in the news from Elliott Spitzer, 'trust me with your purse strings' plea to Rick Perry's attack on Senator Wendy Davis to Weiner's run for NYC mayor. Truly for the return to politics dudes I see it as a run for money. I see that Spitzer, Sanford and Weiner have run out of money and having been on the political money train want back on. Know why they're being listened to? Their wives. George Carlin's has a great monologue that addresses their political double speak hypocrisy.

Sex in the News - the last two weeks has had a range of hugely impactful reports and articles on sexuality in the media. I will be reviewing a number of them and calling certain people and attitudes on the proverbial carpet. Micheal Douplas's I got oral cancer from cunnilingus, or really???? There is an association of HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) 16 with oral and throat cancers however to say it is the cause is in my opinion irresponsible. What about your other lifestyle choices? The impact of women now not getting the type of sexual pleasure that for many women is the best is just one impact. Then I'll look at the anthropological source of HPV 16. Recent article HPV vaccine cut infection by half in ten girls. GRRRRR!!!!! Seriously people look at the science and the research and follow the money. I use Dr. Diane Harper's presentation at the 4th International Public Conference on Vaccinations, October 4th, 2009. www.nvic.org Dr. Harper was one the lead researchers for Merck's development of Gar

So you think you want to teach human sexuality? Well then pay close attention as tonight my guest Megan Andelloux and I will share the inside track on how to make a living lecturing worldwide about healthy human sexuality. Megan's philosophy is sexuality can be spoken about and following the Hippocratic Oath answer the questions about sex and above all "Do No Harm" ohmegan.com, Creator of Study Sex College Tour. Megan Andelloux is a nationally Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE) through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, an HIV educator and a Board Certified Sexologist through The American College of Sexologists. Ms. Andelloux worked for nine years as a youth-focused sexuality educator in NY, RI, CT, and NJ before bringing her love for teaching at a locally run feminist sex-shop in Providence, RI. It was there that she began to notice adults did not have a space to ask questions and learn about sexuality. She also noticed adults hold many of the same questions teen

As we approach Memorial Day I was reflecting on the service our military gives this country. I've also coordinated panels on sexuality and disability for the Coalition to Support America's Heroes (CSAH). I've seen how severly injured soldiers injuries impact these service personnel's sex lives, marriages and family relationships. Given how powerful the media's messages are I looked at, "So what recent messages has the film industry delivered about sexuality?", and top on my list to look at was Sessions. Based on Cheryl Cohen Greene's professional surrogate partnership with severely disabled poet Mark O'Brien. Did Sessions get it right? So I asked a colleague and Clinical Sexual Surrogate to give me the insider's view on this powerful and often misinterpreted part of sex therapy. And believe you me I learned plenty myself. Shai Rotem is the founder of The Center for Professional Clinical Surrogate Therapy. He is an experienced certified Surrogate-Partner since 1997. He is also a member, trainer, an

Lissa Rankin M.D. has a huge mission - Helping to Heal the Healers - sharing Mind Over Medicine - Scientific Proof We Can Heal Ourselves' ground breaking collection of information and scientific facts to the people we go to for health care - M.D.s, physicians, all healthcare providers. Putting back into their minds and hands information that will make them be the healers they went into healthcare to become. People….Love your loved ones? Love life? Love yourself? Then people READ this book it will put you in the driver's seat about keeping you and your loved ones alive longer and in better shape because of things the medical world never told you. In Mind Over Medicine; Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself Lissa Rankin M.D. delivers clear, oftimes LOL user-friendly science based explanations and suggestions on how you can have the body and health you want, how to heal yourself and help your loved ones do the same. In Mind Over Medicine Dr. Lissa adresses the power we have by our thoughts to Hea

Each Monday morning, Rick Davis who coordinates my social media, and I look at what is my weekly Theme. This week was Seeking / Searching. Then I started looking at all the people and events in my field that have Inspired me because people often ask me "What inspired you to work in sexuality?' Answer - the people who told me how my work had impacted them and their relationships. I am so so inspired by heart and passion. By people who don't hear "No, Can't Happen, Who do You Think You Are?" when their heart's voice says Keep going you're right. I am inspired by my colleagues who keep me accountable. My peers who have come from very disparate backgrounds to create new ground breaking toys and products that have contributed worldwide to people's sexual connection and pleasure. Tom Stewart - Sportsheets, Tiffany York of MyFixsation, Ethan Imboden of Jimmy Jane, Jackie Brandwynne of Very Private Inc, Tony Levine of Big Teaze Toys, Bruce and Melody Murison of Standard Innovatons that created the first coupl

An article earlier this week about the former poster boy for Reparative Therapy Ex-gay Leader John Paulk reversing his stand on this therapy spurred me to ask my terrific colleague Dr. Winston Wilde to shine a light on Reparative Therapy. Especially in light of a California Bill SB-1172 Sexual Orientation Change efforts. This bill was signed by Gov. Brown September 30, 2012 and point 865.1 specifically states it is not to be administered to anyone under 18. Then the day of this interview Matt Moore referred to as the ex-gay Christian Blogger was exposed to have been on the gay dating site Grindr. Dr. Wilde feels it s important for our professional peers to create a policy statement about this form of therapy. What is it? Does it actually work? What is the science behind it? Are trained professionals doing this? Why wouldn't Michelle Bachmann and her husband talk about their use of it during her Presidential campaign? Winston Wilde - 1999 Doctor of Human Sexuality: Institute for the Advanced Stud