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Conflict resolution is not a skillset that comes naturally for most of us because our egos will always want to defend us by proving we’re correct at the expense of actually working to a resolution, so what can we do to understand the psychology of conflict resolution and improve our conflict resolution skills? What to Listen For What core psychological principles cause unnecessary conflict and what can you do to deal with them? What are the different phases of conflict resolution? What can you do to develop the skills required for effective conflict resolution and how can they save you from sabotaging your jobs, friends, or relationship? How did Judy Ringer get her start in conflict resolution? During conflict, why do we default to wanting to be right instead of being curious about the other side, and what can we do to flip that switch so we can deal with conflict more effectively? How can using open questions instead of statements or closed questions lead to an environment better suited for conflict

Leadership skills is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot yet can mean many different things depending on the person using it, so what does “leadership skills” really mean, what does the science say about the value of leadership skills, and what can you do. What to Listen For What traits do you need to bring to the table as a leader and what can you do to develop them? Why is a strong frame necessary for effective leadership? What does it mean to have a strong frame and what can you do to build one? What tools and techniques can you start using today to be a more effective leader? How do you build leadership skills? Are leadership skills applicable outside of the workplace? What is the CAKE equation and how can you use it to build confidence? What does science say about the value of leadership skills? What are the two leadership styles and which one do we tend to associate with leadership even though it’s not as effective as the other in the long run? How do you work on or start building your le

Storytelling might seem like a skill reserved for dinner parties and family gatherings, but we actually use it in our everyday lives, many times without really knowing it - so what can you do to be more aware of when you’re using it, when you should be using it, and how not using it could be leading you to miss out on crucial opportunities for professional and personal growth? What to Listen For How did Laura Beil get her start in podcasting? What level of skepticism around the modern healthcare system is appropriate in today’s day and age where you can find countless horror stories throughout the internet? How can you guide people you’re interviewing to tell better stories in response to your questions? What kinds of questions can you ask someone if you want more in-depth answers or explanations? How can you improve your empathy in situations where you’re listening to someone talk about a tragic event in their life? What can you do to bring fresh energy into meetings with your storytelling skills? H

Many of life’s most powerful lessons come from stories of men and women living through dark and ugly periods in history - but why do we relate to these stories so strongly, what’s the best way to tell a story from your own life about adversity or a struggle you endured, and how do you know when such a story is ready to be told? What to Listen For What story from history first hooked Daniele Bolleli into pursuing history? How do you remove the bias or spin from news stories in today’s digital era? What made Daniele Bolelli realize he wanted to start podcasting? How do you tell a story in a way that people actually care about the characters involved? How do you find or build in a hook when you’re trying to figure out the best way to tell a story? How do you balance the dark side of a story with the lighthearted side so neither one pushes the audience away? What can you do to add humor to dark stories in a way that doesn’t feel forced or out of place? What can you look for in a story you want to tell i

Humans are storytellers by nature, so the ability to tell a great story is something we can all learn and develop over time - but where do you start if you want to become a great storyteller, what is the structure of a great story, and how do you practice if you’re not already a public speaker? What to Listen For What does science tell us about why storytelling is so powerful? What can you do to be a more compelling storyteller? What steps can you follow to tell unforgettable stories? What are the 4 basic steps of storytelling and how can you apply them in everyday life to become a great storyteller? What simple game can you play with family, friends, or strangers to test and improve your storytelling ability? Why are emotions such a crucial aspect of great storytelling and what can you do to incorporate them into your stories? What is the Angel’s Cocktail and how does it make for an unforgettable story? How should you approach storytelling in a professional setting like a networking event versus a

Storytelling is the glue which has held humanity together over tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years - but why are stories so important to us, what goes into creating a great story, and what can you do turn any story from your life into a great story worth telling? What to Listen For Why is storytelling such a valuable skill to have in personal and professional relationships? What can you do to tell engaging and compelling stories? Why is your storytelling ability important for making new friends, building a network, and dating? How does your storytelling ability make or break your performance in sales? Why do many of us focus on the wrong things when telling a story and how is it hindering you socially and professionally? Why are stories so powerful in conveying information and connecting us? How do you structure a story so you’re captivating the listeners and they can’t help but remember you? What is the Hero’s Journey and how has it been used throughout history to structure fam

Networking can seem like a daunting task for introverts, so what strengths do introverts bring to the table that extroverts do not, what value can you bring to a network if you are just starting out, and how can you utilize today’s technology to amplify your networking ability? What to Listen For How can you stand out as an introvert when networking? What is one of the most effective ways to build a network in a fluid job market like Silicon Valley where almost no one stays at one company for more than a couple years? Can you be a master networker if you’re an introvert? What value can you bring to a network when you are just starting out in a new field or career? What strengths do introverts bring to networking that extroverts do not? What can you do to improve your listening skills to make you a better networker? What tools in today’s day and age should you be using to grow and maintain your network? Is email dead? What is the “loose touch” habit and how can you use it to grow and strengthen yo

Networking is all about people (obviously), but it can be easy to forget that when we’re thinking about what we can get from the relationships in our lives while we should be thinking about what we can give - so how do you start networking with intentions and making sure they are the correct intentions? What to Listen For Why do you need to write a personal mission statement, and how do you go about constructing one? Why are you likely starting your day off on the wrong foot and what simple step can you take to start every day off on the right foot? Why is it so important to develop a plan with intention in how you go about your day? What questions should you be asking yourself each morning to set yourself up for success? How do you stay in touch after networking events with the people you meet at them? Why is it important in professional as well as personal relationships to regularly make exciting plans weeks or months in advance? What is a simple but powerful idea you can use to start building a so

The best networkers prepare for networking events in order to get the most out of them, but how do you go about preparing for a networking event, what are the do’s and don’ts of networking, and is your first impression shooting you in the foot before you even open your mouth? What to Listen For What are the do’s and don’ts of networking? How do you handle a networking event if you’re an introvert? What can you do to prepare for a networking event, and do you even need to? How can a bad (or even a neutral) first impression ruin your chances of success at a networking event and what can you do to make a fantastic first impression instead? What kind of research should you do before a networking event? How do you set yourself up for success before and/or during a networking event? How do you choose what to wear for a networking event, and what should you avoid wearing? Where should you hang out at networking events if you want to have the best chance of talking to the individuals you’re trying to meet?

Introduction Networking has picked up a bad rap over the years, but what exactly is networking, how is your network different from your social circle, and how do you go about building a strong network full of great people and amazing opportunities? What to Listen For What is the difference between your social circle and your network, and how can the misunderstanding of the difference lead to a loss of opportunities, both personally and professionally? What are the biggest myths surrounding networking? What is social capital and why is your familiarity with it crucial to your ability to network effectively? Why do many of us view networking as transactional, and why is that mindset detrimental to building a strong network? How important is your first impression when building a network versus building a social circle? What is the easiest area to focus on if you want to strengthen your network, and why can ignoring it have detrimental effects? Why are your casual acquaintances more likely to lead to job

Some of the most intense and important negotiations humanity has witnessed have taken place in and around the field of battle, but how much do they have in common with the negotiations we engage in on a daily basis, what can civilians learn from how the military successfully approaches its negotiations, and what 5 strategies can you implement today in order to improve your negotiation skills? What to Listen For What are the most common mistakes people make when negotiating and what can you do to avoid making them? What is the difference between negotiating to create choices and negotiating to reach an agreement, and why should you aim for one while avoiding the other at all costs? Why do most people only think about negotiations in the short term and how can that mindset cause so much damage in the long term? What are the commonalities between life or death military negotiations and negotiations in business? How do you take cultural differences into account when negotiating? What questions should you b

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Some of the most important decisions in your life involve negotiating with someone more experienced than you, so what can you do today to make sure you are well prepared for every negotiation to come? What to Listen For What can you do to make sure you’re not shooting yourself in the foot when negotiating? What is the difference between negotiating from a place of cooperation versus position? How are you killing opportunities by negotiating with a competitive mindset and what mindset should you be negotiating with if you want to get the most out of every negotiation? What is the Harvard Negotiation Project and what can you take from it to improve your negotiation skills today? How does pressure work against you in negotiations and what can we do to handle it so it doesn’t have detrimental consequences in the long term? What 3 things are you doing to kill your chances of negotiating a raise? What 3 traits are critical to entering a negotiation that allows for a win-win for all parties involved? What

The thought of negotiating can instill feelings of discomfort in many of us because we associate negotiating with trying to create a win for us and a loss for the person we are negotiating with, but how would that change if you had the knowledge and confidence to come up with a win-win for just about every negotiation you entered into? What to Listen For Where do the misconceptions surrounding negotiating come from and how can a few simple changes in perception improve your ability to negotiate? What is Prospect Theory and how does it cause you to miss out on great opportunities? What is Positional Bargaining? How are Positional Bargaining and Anchoring connected and how can the connection lead you Why will we work harder NOT to lose $100 than we will to earn an extra $100? How can you start improving your negotiating ability today? What is the Harvard Negotiation Project and how can you use your understanding of it to create more win-win negotiations? What are the 4 elements of a negotiation we shou

Finding your voice as an individual is vital to realizing your potential and building a life that allows you to be the best version of yourself, but what does it mean to find your voice, what steps can you take today to discover it, and why will most people die before ever finding their voice? What to Listen For How do you define a successful networking event and what can you do to make your next networking event a success? Why is it important to discover your voice and use it to express your thoughts on a regular basis? What can you do to find your voice in a world where most people die without ever finding theirs? How do you deal with the blowback that comes from voicing your opinions and beliefs that some people inevitably won’t agree with? What hurdles do women face in social situations inside and outside of work and what can you do as a woman to overcome those hurdles so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities? How do you handle the gender dynamic as a woman in a leadership/management positi

The narratives we create for ourselves influence everything from life-changing decisions down to what we eat and how we spend our free time, but what exactly is a narrative and how do you go about creating a positive one that pulls you in the direction you want to go in life? What to Listen For How do you justify a career change if you already have the “perfect” job? What is the one thing you take with you every time you leave a job for a new one, and how can you use that to minimize the regret you might feel for leaving a great job? What is a narrative and why are they so influential when it comes to how we think and make decisions? If you feel you are overanalytical, how do you use it as a strength while making sure it doesn’t cripple you in social situations? What can you do to make networking an enjoyable process rather than something you feel like you have to do in order to grow professionally? How do you become more likable as a coworker? Why is likability more important than hard skills when it

Technology has an increasing influence on our lives, but did you know even small concentrated doses, such as working all day on a computer (aka a “tech coma”), can have a significant impact on your ability to interact with other people in healthy? What to Listen For What is Eric Weinstein trying to do with his new podcast and why should you listen to it? What does the world of professional wrestling know about psychology that most psychology professors and researchers don’t? What is the Intellectual Dark Web (IDW) and what can you learn from about how to have a constructive conversation with people you disagree with? How do you break through disinformation when you’re constantly surrounded by “fake news”? How do you draw a boundary with your personal life if you have a life in the public eye? How is immigration being used to transfer wealth from one group to another and why should we restrict it? How do you take a platform’s algorithm into account when deciding where to get your news and information?

The harder a decision seems to be for people, the less likely it is that we will spend enough time researching it in order to determine what to do - but why is that, how should we handle the component of time when it comes to waiting to make decisions, and what can you do to eliminate the fear of regret in your life? What to Listen For Why do we spend a lot of time researching insignificant decisions and little time researching significant decisions? How can you approach life-changing decisions from a neutral point of view so you can make the decision for the right reasons? How do does action versus inaction affect our likelihood to regret a certain event and how can you change your perspective in order to eliminate regret? How do we take time into account when deciding how much time to spend researching minor and major decisions? What are the three types of decisions and how can your awareness of each one help you to avoid wasting valuable time What is anchoring and how does it affect our decision mak

Most of us will never undergo professional training in the world of improve and yet we engage in improv almost every day because life is improv - so why should you consider taking an improv class, how does improv relate to self-development, and how can an improv mindset help you to relax in social situations? What to Listen For How do you compete in a place like Hollywood with people who claim to be or do things that they don’t even do? How should you approach a conversation with someone you look up to when meeting for the first time and why is it such a bad idea to be a fanboy/girl in such a situation? What should your mindset be when first meeting someone and what mindset will likely lead to an undesirable outcome? What is the value in learning improv and how does it relate to your path of self-development? Why is it counterproductive to try to be funny in improv? What signs of codependency can you look for early on in a relationship and what can you do to course correct at that point? How can a rel

Kindness costs you nothing but can change someone’s life forever, even your own - but how do we even define kindness, what does it mean to be genuinely kind, and how can a simple act of kindness have such lasting effects on the people around us? What to Listen For How do you deal with possible regrets when you make major life-changing decisions? What is the Kindness Diaries and what inspired Leon Logothetis to start his quest for kindness? How do you deal with the pushback that comes from close friends and family when you decide to leave a stable job to pursue your dreams? What was it like for Leon Logothetis to approach a stranger for the first time and how has his approach evolved over time? How can you use body language to allow strangers to feel comfortable talking to you when approaching them in the middle of the day? How does Leon Logothetis choose who he’s going to approach and who he wants to avoid? Are kindness and generosity universal or does it vary by culture? What was Leon Logothetis’s f