Transforming Your Life With Dr. Malaika

Have you ever known someone and their connection to others seemed a bit clingy and creepy? Do you expend all of your energy in meeting your partner’s needs? Do you feel trapped in your relationship? Are you the one that is constantly making sacrifices in your relationship? If you answered yes, this may be signs of codependency. Let’s talk about what it is and what can be done to improve the behavior. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

All of us will find it necessary to exit a relationship at some point in our lives, whether it’s a romantic love interest, a friendship, or an acquaintanceship; people grow apart, reveal themselves to be different than we thought they were, or we simply discover that each of us wants different things. But if you always have your running shoes on, you might be a ghoster and there is a psychology that goes with it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

The way society has normalized certain “toxic” behaviors was the subject of a popular thread on Reddit back in January. The tone of the current political season and even among church goers is just as toxic. What is this about and what can we do? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

So you are picking out your Halloween costume and decide to dress as an Indian. Is this cultural appropriation? This issue is a moral one and navigating it can be tricky. Let’s better understand cultural denigration, cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Toxic people are draining but what do you do when the toxic person is family? It is easy to cut ties with someone you are not related to but how do you do it when it is a family member? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and in turn a healthy life. Spotting unhealthy boundaries can be challenging but creating and maintaining healthy boundaries can be even more difficult. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

We all have that friend that always has some crisis going on. But what is the cause of this and how do you deal with them and help them? I’ll provide some understanding and some tips on how to deal with drama kings and queens. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Suicide affects all demographics of people. Every year, about 41,000 people die by suicide, 1.3 million adults attempt suicide, 2.7 million adults have had a plan for suicide and 9.3 million adults have had suicidal thoughts. This doesn’t even include numbers for the youth. We need to have This conversation and we need to have it often. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

The beginning of a new school year brings many positives but also challenges for the child and parent. These challenges can impact mental health of not attended to properly. Let’s discuss things to be aware of and tips for how to deal with stressors as they occur. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Youth are often the forgotten group when it comes to mental health issues. They are often disregarded and have their issues minimize. Let’s discuss how you can better understand their issues and become an advocate. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Singleness is often viewed as a deficiency socially. Many question why they are still single, especially if they are over a particular age. Let’s talk about the myths of singleness and why you could still be single. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Two mass shootings in a span of thirteen hours in El Paso, TX and Dayton, OH committed by white Americans, one believed to have a white nationalist agenda, shows that there is a problem in America. The challenge is this problem has always been here. Radicalized racism is a cancer and we need to talk about it so change can occur. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

With headlines like Nicole Murphy and Antoine Fuqua being caught in a compromising position in Italy, Prince William and Jay Z admitting to infidelity, cheating is a topic that needs to be discussed. What happens in the mind of a person that causes them to cheat? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Self-love is a popular term but what does that mean in practice? It is not a simply a state of feeling good but an appreciation for the self. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

When it comes to love, could your cognitive biases be keeping you from finding "the one"? “Use your head, not your heart." Many of us have been told that our brains will lead us down the right path. But are our brains really so wise in matters of love? Or do they lead us astray? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Many high achievers share a dirty little secret: Deep down they feel like complete frauds–their accomplishments the result of serendipitous luck. This psychological phenomenon, known as impostor syndrome, reflects a belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure, despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so. In some cases, especially when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept whatever it is you’re holding on to and then let it go. That’s how everything changes. You have to let go of what is hurting you, even if it feels almost impossible. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Religion and spirituality are both rooted in trying to understand the meaning of life and, in some cases, how a relationship with a higher power may influence that meaning. While religion and spirituality are similar in foundation, they are very different in practice. Let’s discuss how both impact your overall health and wellbeing. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

Extensive research shows why you should forgive people who have offended or hurt you, even if they never ask. But what if there offense is extremely egregious? Is there a limit to what should be forgiven. Let’s discuss how freedom comes with forgiveness, and not to the forgiven. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support

People have developed various rituals around ending important life periods. They get together for a last meal, throw a good-bye party, or see their visitors off at the airport. Why would people go through this effort in finding a round ending rather than moving on right away to what is coming next? Most research on life transitions has focused on the new beginning and on what helps once people have started their new life period. Ending a phase in a well-rounded way causally promotes positive affect and a constructive transition. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drmalaikaspeaks/support