Dr. Judy Wtf

Narcissistic mothers do not want their daughters to outshine them. as a matter of face they like to use their children to fill the whole in the soul. This leaves terrible psychological scars that live them lost, alone, and worthless unless they are pleasing mother. The healthy independence never develops because there is a toxic pull to stay in the confides of the psychologic family prison. IN order to break free, the daughter must identify these wounds and release the toxic feelings behind the wounds and separate and individuate.

Living with a narcissist can take quite a toll. The effects include, depression anxiety low self esteem aches and pains and feeling like you are going crazy. It is very hard to leave these dynamics, especially when you have years of history or family with the induvial. At the end of the day, you have to make discussions on your best interests and the best interests of your family. There are no right answers, however it is only fair to make a last ditch effect to shift the darkness into the light.

When it come to letting love in, parents set the bar. When they leave you messages like you don't matter; or you are not important or loveable; it is hard to believe when people act or speak contrary to those messages. In order to surprise the bar and let love in, it is important to heal our childhood wounds so that we can develop the capacity to be givers and taker and create a synergistic relationships.

When children are neglected and abused severely and when their primary care taking is disrupted, babies and children lose their ability to regulate their emptions and become easily dysregulated. As a result they may become hyper vigilante or start shutting down. This very disruptive form of parenting or lack thereof has severe conclusion on human emotional cognitive and physical development. Psychoeducation and prevention are key to making sure that parents can form strong healthy bonds with their children and repair reputed ones.

When divorcing a narcissist, it is important to psycho educate yourself legally and psychologically. Boundaries become important and sometimes it is very import to keep a paper trail in the event that your ex tries to manipulate the truth. Children who are caught in the middle, suffer greatly and sometimes have to choose, one parent of the other. In healthy families children are never put in this position.

Satanic ritual abuse is one of the, if not THE horrific forms of abuse. In many cases it is multigenerational and the victim are groomed by their own families which are groomed by their families. Association is a common way of handling pain including associative identity disorder and psychosis. Unprocessed trauma is so deep that many people erect so many defense mechanism and they never get to cause, which is: sexual, psychical, and/or verbal abuse by the family members. Raquel had the courage to expose her wounds and as a result she is experience the deepest level of healing that she has ever obtained. Thank you Raquel for having the courage to speak on this subject.

Some people are symptoms bares of their family's. They are groomed to be people pleasers. Children are groomed to be people pleasure and also encoded with them horrible messages such as "I am not good enough," or "I am a bad person and don't deserve to live." In order to release the toxic feeling of guilt it is important to go back to the cause. Don't implode, don't explode, unload. Self reflect and self correct. Guilt is never a pathway to healing

Even when we can not control our global systems gone wrong, we can be the cause of healing individual which will then allow us to help ourselves and thus evolve other people. By self correcting, and looking in the truth mirror, we can begin to focus on identifying childhood wounds that have shadowed over us and have created us to break down. It is only through our individual healing that we can be the cause of making a difference globally. I invite everyone instead of identifying only with being an ism to remember that first and foremost that we are all human beings and part of the human race. I invite you all to join the human race.

In order to keep the focus off the narcissistic abusive person, they will blame shift on to you. This is a great way for them to avoid taking responsibility for their abusive behavior and induce you to question yourself. The best way you can prevent yourself from falling victim to their "tricks" is to psycho educate yourself about this narcissistic system as a terrible system gone wrong that affects families multi-generational and across cultures. Sibling rivalry is an unfortunate common fallout of this system gone wrong.

Guilting and shaming are ways to control and manipulate and divert the attention away from the narcissist victim. One way the narcissist will do this is by offering up fake apology that people buy into, that often times lead people into feeling they did something wrong. instead of vice versa. Genuine apologies include a sincere effort to make things right, "I am sorry" is just not enough. Taking the time to make people whole is understanding. Once buttons have been deactivated to healing, people are no longer a victim to be setup to feel guilt and shame that do not belong to them.

Parents have to earn the right to be honored. If they provide you with the emotional and physical nutrients to help you thrive, they deserve to be honored. If they are abusive, neglectful, and unemphatic, don't feel bad about not honoring them. Honor them to the level that you feel is right for you, there are no right answers and in some cases, light connect, no connect, and low connect is appreciate. The most important thing is to process the anger and resentment that you have been holding in throughout your life, so that you can be a cause of a better outcome or a part two of your life.

In these trying times, it is best to concentrate on being the light rather than fighting the darkness. We have splintered off and fractured our humanity and now it is time for use to heal individually to heal globally. It does not take much, yielding in traffic, showing empathy to others that are tired or lonely or hungry. Lets work on ourselves individual to bring it to others and to use our curse by designs as to way to teach others how to overcome what we have worked hard to overcome for ourselves.

Enablers of bad behaviors often times come from families that normalize bad behavior. When we are in a toxic environment we sometimes don't know we are in this toxic environment. Part of getting conscious and stopping this enabling behavior is identifying the blueprint that sets us up for tolerating it. It is important as a first attempt to direct our attention towards the behavior as oppose to the person. As I say to my patients, don't drop the person, drop the problem, but if the person wont drop the problem you may need to move on.

When your primary caregivers do not create safety and secure attachment, it lays a foundation for a system gone wrong. Parents that enroll their children in becoming parentified adult children will associate love with being smothered and controlled and can easy become love avoidant. Children who have been emotionally abandoned are more prone to become love addicts. Toxic bonds are formed when in the first few months and years of life. In order to avoid the repetition principle of selecting relationships that break you down, do your healing and dismantle the old blueprint so that you can paradigm shift into a new way of being.

In order for us to heal globally, we must heal individually. When we are in the consciousness of selfishness and apathy, we can not create synergy and global healing. Apathy is created when parents put their own needs before the needs of their children. It is a system gone wrong. This system gone wrong creates narcissistic injuries and psychopathic breakdowns. we need to realize that we are all interconnected and we are all responsible to heal ourselves, so that we can positively impact others and be the cause of better outcomes for not only our lives, but the lives of others. Pay your humane nature forward. healingglobaldisconnect.com

There is a difference between healthy entitlement and unhealthy entitlement. When children get their needs met, and feel OK about asking for their needs, they grow up in an environment of healthy entitlement. When children grow up either spoiled or deprived, they end up getting their needs met by controlling and empowering over others through aggressive or passive aggressive needs. Unhealthy entitlement is the same as unhealthy narcissism versus healthy narcissism. When our needs are meet early in life, we feel good about asking others about meeting our own needs. When we have a whole in the soul, the needs become an endless, bottomless pit that no one can fulfill.

Anything can reopen a narcissistic childhood wound; a sight, a smell, a dirty look, or name calling. When old wounds are reopening, negative core beliefs, such as: I am not lovable, I am stupid, I don't matter, I'm powerless, is reactivated. Unless we get to the root cause of the problem and dismantle the lies of these negative core beliefs, we can not truly heal at the causal level. Once we face these childhood wounds, we can reprocess the feelings and paradigm shift out of the darkness

An act of omission is usually what a parent doesn't do for the child. An act of commission is what a parent does do for a child. The commission in this case is physical abuse, and emotional abuse. People fail to recognize that just cause acts of omission do not leave bruises, that there are not scares. Often time the bruise is internal and sometimes gets internalized and creates self destruction in the person. When there is an enlightened witness who can be a truth light to the victim, they can spare the individual the self blame or the projection that come with trying to rid themselves of the psychological poisons. Childhood is a hostage situation and even children that know the truth are in a horrible double dungeon of darkness situation because there is nothing that they can do since they need the parents to survive. Children would rather blame themselves then hold their parents reasonable.