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Episode Title: Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Personal Rant Episode Summary: In this special episode, Becky goes on a passionate rant about people-pleasing advice . Listen for insights that will change how you approach your relationships. Highlights: John Delony's Take: Becky breaks down advice from a renowned expert and shares what she agrees and disagrees with. Personal Stories and Insights: Hear Becky's candid thoughts on how people pleasing affects relationships and what you can do about it. Practical Tips: Discover actionable advice to help stop people-pleasing and become more authentic in your relationships. If you've ever found yourself putting others' needs before your own or struggling to voice your opinions, this episode is for you. Connect with Becky: Let's chat ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 Instagram: @BeckySmithCoaching Email: Becky@BeckySmithCoaching.com Subscribe and Share: Don't miss out on future episodes! Subscribe now and share this podca

Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours! Get practical tips on: Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks Deepening emotional connection Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!) Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide! Resources: ⁠https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf⁠ ⁠https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/revelation-for-the-church-revelation-for-our-lives?lang=eng⁠ www.twowayprayer.org kellyfiack@yahoo.com or Shalecefiack@yahoo.com Let's have a chat to build a happier, resentment-free relationship! ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45⁠

This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited. Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/revelation-for-the-church-revelation-for-our-lives?lang=eng www.twowayprayer.org kellyfiack@yahoo.com or Shalecefiack@yahoo.com Let's chat https://calendly.com/believefitness/45

Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone. Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay. Discover how to: Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self. Navigate uncomfortable emotions with self-compassion. Build healthier, resentment-free relationships. Ready to break free and build the connections you deserve? Sign up for a free coaching session... https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships Follow Lauren on Instagram @your.mom.coach --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth.  00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning 06:27 Practical Tips for Building a House of Repair 07:34 Final Thoughts and Weekly Challenge --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foster a deeper connection with your partner. Let's talk. Sign up now. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships 00:00 Welcome Back & Today's Focus on Validation 00:22 Understanding Validation in Relationships 03:44 Key Points on Validation and Emotional Connection 04:58 Practical Tips for Validating Your Partner 06:46 Real-Life Scenario: Handling Household Chores 09:38 The Impact of Validation in Personal Relationships 10:46 Conclusion: The Journey of Improving Validation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict 03:01 Strategies for Managing Defensiveness and Conflict 05:33 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care During Conflict1 4:48 Conclusion and Invitation for Further Support --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority 06:23 Conclusion and Reflections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty.  Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore the significance of perspective in shaping our understanding of ourselves and our relationships. She highlights the positive changes in Alice's interactions when she views her life through the lens of her younger self, noting the decrease in defensiveness and increase in empathy. Becky extends these fictional themes into real-life applications, suggesting introspective questions that encourage curiosity and empathy to improve personal relationships. The episode aims to inspire listeners to consider their past and future selves in navigating current challenges, promoting a mindset of growth and openness. 00:00 W

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significance of thoughtful questioning in revealing underlying aspirations and acknowledges that, although not all conflicts are solvable, their manageability improves with mutual understanding and empathy. Becky encourages listeners to embrace the role of a 'dream catcher' in their own relationships and shares avenues for feedback and further discussion on this vital topic. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series: Unveiling Hidden Dreams 00:21 Understanding Perpetual Arguments in Relationships 01:3

In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's views. She shares a personal story about resolving a conflict. The fifth step is about dealing with the deeper reasons behind conflicts. Becky wraps up by summarizing the steps and saying that dealing with conflict can bring people closer. She also mentions a webinar coming up where she'll talk more about handling conflicts healthily. 00:00 Celebrating 200 Episodes: A Milestone Moment 00:31 Diving Into Healthy Conflict: Steps to Navigate Disagreements 01:01 Soothing Strategies: Managing Emotional Flooding in Conflicts 04:28 The Art of Compromise: Finding Middle Ground 08:17 Addr

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. The podcast also addresses the challenge of practicing these methods, especially for individuals prone to being people pleasers or suffering from codependency. Becky concludes with an invitation to an upcoming webinar that aims to help listeners foster healthy connections through better conflict management. 00:00 Welcome & Series Introduction 00:15 Recap: The First Step to Resolving Conflict 01:09 Deep Dive: Techniques for a Soft Startup 02:43 Understanding the Purpose of Conflict Resolution Techniq

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse' (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) for better communication. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series 00:11 The Importance of Healthy Conflict in Marriage 00:45 Learning from the Gottmans: Embracing Conflict for Intimacy 03:30 Understanding Your Conflict Culture 04:08 The Gottmans' Five Steps to Resolving Conflict 05:19 Identifying and Overcoming the Four Horsemen 10:01 Self-Reflection and Improvement Exercise 14:09 Practicing Healthy Conflict Responses 15:30 Homework and Preview for Next Week --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance conflict resolution is valuable, aiming to strengthen relationships. Becky encourages listeners to engage with the series to learn about fostering healthy conflict and better disagreement practices in marriage.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:45 Understanding Conflict in Relationships01:57 The Importance of Awareness in Conflict Resolution02:40 Home Refresh: A Metaphor for Conflict Resolution04:41 The Process of Refreshing Your Conflict Culture05:39 The Cost and Reward of Conflict Resolution07:08 The Value of Relationships and Conflict Resolution07:38 Conclusion: The Journey to Healthy Conflict --- Send in a voice

In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-responsibility and offers advice on tolerating discomfort associated with others' feelings. Some recommended thoughts to help maintain emotional separation include acknowledging that other people's emotions are not about oneself, and understanding that one cannot fix someone else's feelings. Becky emphasizes the importance of acceptance and letting go of the need to change or take responsibility for others' emotions. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:16 Understanding Emotional Over-Responsibility00:52 The Double-Edged Sword of Empathy01:44 Example of Emotional Over-Responsibility03:09 Steps to Let G

Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date again. She encourages viewing adversities as growth opportunities. Becky ends by offering a free consultation session to listeners for further assistance. https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Purpose 01:01 Addressing Listener's Question: Post-Divorce Recovery 02:01 Understanding the Grieving Process 02:32 Recognizing and Processing Pain 04:46 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Forgiveness 06:08 Building Trust and Dating Post-Divorce 08:27 The Power of Self-Confidence in Dating 12:08 Embracing Adversity as an Opportunity for Growth 13:02 Recap and Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com

Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free from resentment. The first pillar is 'Selfhood' where individuals work on building confidence and identity. The second pillar involves learning to have 'Healthy Conflict' while managing anger and learning assertiveness. In the third pillar, 'Emotional Support', individuals learn to understand and manage their feelings. The fourth pillar 'Boundaries' revolves around the understanding of being assertive without feeling guilt. The fifth and final pillar helps in understanding 'Codependency and People Pleasing Tendencies' and how to support people without being overly responsible for their emotions. You are invited to contact

Tapping Away Stress: Becky and Rachel Hall discuss the concept of 'tapping', a technique she has been practicing for over ten years to manage pain, depression, and anxiety. Trained through Brooke Snow's Creation Coach certification, Rachel shares her journey dealing with depression and celiac disease, and how tapping has helped her cope with these conditions. She explains tapping as an alternative to acupuncture, using pressure points to signal the brain's reaction towards relaxing the body and mind. Rachel and Becky discuss how it can be applied practically in managing emotions and stress. This podcast concludes with Rachel guiding Becky through an extensive tapping demonstration, offering listeners a firsthand account of its therapeutic potential. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation 00:28 Rachel's Personal Journey and Life Coaching 01:48 Introduction to Tapping 03:23 Benefits and Mechanism of Tapping 04:27 Practical Application of Tapping 08:02 Tapping and Emotional Processing 11:20 Demonstration of

Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to understand better, respond to, and navigate grumpiness in their relationships without attributing it to their self-worth, granting valid space for emotions to come and go in a respectful and caring manner .00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:08 Understanding the Grumpy Mood 00:19 Don't Take It Personally 01:11 Avoid Trying to Fix the Mood 01:51 Reflecting on Their Feelings 03:36 Asking the Right Questions 04:14 Setting Healthy Boundaries 05:23 Recap and Conclusion --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also introduces the Law of Creation model by Brooke Snow, offering a different perspective. Both models aim to raise awareness in thoughts, feelings, and actions, as foundational tools for self-improvement. 00:00 Intro and Podcast Journey 00:51 Consistency Matters 01:28 Back to Basics: Life Coaching Tools 02:31 Understanding the Self-Coaching Model 04:45 Applying the Model: An Example 07:39 Power of Perception: Thoughts Shape Feelings 09:10 Introducing the Law of Creation Model 11:27 Comparing Both Models 11:55 The Power of Awareness in Self-Improvement 13:46 Recap and What's Next 15:14 Closing Rema