The Mating Grounds Podcast

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 11 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how women don't want only assholes or just nice guys, but they do want men who are tough and assertive to the world but kind and caring to them; a tender defender.   They go over how to improve and display both agreeable and assertiveness. For more on the tender defender, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 10 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how willpower is the key to being an effective man, which ultimately is what women want (listen to The Mate Preview, Pt. 6: What Women Want) They go over how to build willpower, including the first key mindset that you need to adopt, the 5 steps to setting & accomplishing goals, and the multiple ways to display your willpower to women. For more on the willpower trait, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

This week on Helping Joe, Joe has a breakthrough with the best date he has ever been on. Charlie & Tucker break down why and how this date went so well. Joe also unknowingly blows off another woman who wanted to have sex with him. Tucker & Charlie share similar funny personal stories. And they end the podcast talking with Joe about how to deal with toxic, judgmental people in his life. 

The answer to this question may seem obvious (and part of it is obvious), but Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the deeper emotional issues going on with this guy, the many problems with his mindset, and ways to avoid this pessimism. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 9 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the 6 types of intelligence and why women care about them. They also go over a few ways you can improve and display your intelligence to women.  For more on the intelligence trait and how to display your intelligence, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.    In Part 8 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain why women care about your mental health (happiness, openness, and playfulness). It is a way for women to see that you are not a threat and that your brain is effective. They go over what you can do today to become more brain healthy and display that to women.  For more on the mental health trait, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe gives updates on the women that he went out with over the last two weeks. Charlie & Tucker give him high level and specific advice on how to avoid social isolation (find a tribe) and where best to spend his money. They also dive deeper into Joe’s emotional issues and tools he can use to solve these problems so he can better connect with women and friends.  This episode is sponsored by Land A Job You Love, a course from our own Charlie Hoehn.  

In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how there is no checklist of skills that a real man should have. In general, women care much more about your personality traits and behaviors than any specific skill. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 7, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over why your health is so important to women and why it's not just about looking good. If you have a good body and are in shape, it signals you have deeper underlying traits of effectiveness. (Remember, women care about effectiveness in men, see The Mate Preview, Pt.6) They also explain how you don't need to be a bodybuilder or an athlete. In fact, you don't need even need to work out that much. They tell you empirically what most women are actually attracted to in terms of body shape and the most effectives things you can do today to become more healthy. For more on the physical health trait, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 6, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over what women want on a deep biological level and why they evolved to want these things in men. Dr. Miller is one of the world's leading experts on female mate choice. To sum up all the research, women evolved to want effective men. For more on understanding what women want, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

This week on Helping Joe, Charlie Hoehn and Nils Parker give Joe feedback on OkCupid (see the blog notes) and Tinder after Joe gets frustrated with interactions on the dating app. They also dive into his sleep habits and ask him what a perfect day looks like. Joe does not have a specific answer. They explain why this is a big problem in his life and with his mating goals.  “Right now, you have no fucking clue where you are going... You are letting life happen to you and wandering around as a result. This exercise if it does nothing else will give you a destination to point yourself to and work towards.” - Nils Parker This episode is sponsored by Land A Job You Love, a course from our own Charlie Hoehn. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 5, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how to figure out exactly what it is you want so you can direct your mating efforts to honestly getting that with women or a woman who wants the same thing. You not only deserve to ask yourself "What do I want," but you need to. For more on understanding yourself and what you want, listen to our previous podcast episodes. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 4, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over the multiple ways women experience the world and dating that are different than how men do, including major female fears, worries, concerns, and thought patterns in mating.  These are not opinions or moralizing lessons but based on the best current research on women's psychology and sex differences.  For more on understanding what it's like to be a woman who dates men, listen to our previous podcast episodes.   

This week is our second episode of Helping Joe with four people on the mics (Tucker Max, Charlie Hoehn, Nils Parker, & Joe). This episode picks up where the guys left off in Episode 23. Joe starts by reading his crazy (but hilarious) inner thoughts that he kept track of during the past week. The guys figure out why Joe has these thoughts and emotional reactions by exploring his relationship with his mom. Joe shares stories from his childhood and learns that every one is dealt a different hand of cards at birth and in life. His job here is to figure out what his cards are so that he can live a good life with lots of great women in it. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 3, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over confidence, competence, and the sociometer theory. They explain why there are no shortcuts to building true confidence. 

In this Q&A, Tucker Max and Nils Parker explain how to understand women and why they put guys in the friend zone so you don't get stuck there in the first place or can get out of it. Also, it's okay to just be friends with attractive women. 

In this special episode of Helping Joe, everybody (Tucker, Charlie, Nils, & Joe) is in the same room to talk about Joe’s progress and problems over the last few weeks. They talk about how women test men to get honest signals, what building real confidence looks like, and how to interpret some dreams. They also dive deeper into Joe's trust issues and perfectionist tendencies and how to get over them so he can be more attractive to women. 

In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want, explaining key takeaways and what to expect.  In Part 2, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how Mate is different and talk about the five fundamental principles that need to govern all your mating decisions. 

In this Q&A, Tucker and Nils explain how it's best to take this problem head-on, be honest about it, make a joke (they give some ideas), and be clear there that you are heterosexual.

Don't date women that lie to you! In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils talk about what this caller's deeper issues are and why he put up with a bad girlfriend for so long.