Kate Hastings Show

Have you ever thought to yourself, “How did I get here?” Why do the same friends, relationships, and events keep repeating? Almost everyone at one point in life has chosen to overlook red flags. We’ve suppressed our inner voice, which begged us to break up with that friend, don’t marry that person, and leave that toxic job. You are not weak or stupid, but human. Trial and error will be a part of the healing process; we won’t get everything right the first time. However, we can learn from our experiences and make better choices in the future. Everything isn’t a red flag, but if you grew up in an environment where boundaries were not respected, chaos was the norm, and toxic behavior was tolerated, you might not see anything wrong. We disregard red flags because we are terrified of expressing the truth to not be alone. So instead of facing the agony of confrontation, we engage in denial and continue about our business as usual. But, on the other hand, what is more lonely than being with someone who makes you fee

I speak from my personal experiences and can say I have a Ph.D. in this topic.  By becoming aware of the patterns in your relationships, you can see what exactly you are attracted to. You cannot control what you’re not aware of. However, you can develop awareness and create new patterns. Why do you keep choosing the same toxic relationships over and over again? If you’ve been abused in previous relationships (or in childhood), you may have a hard time labeling abuse as abuse because you’ve grown accustomed to it and have learned to blame yourself for it. People stay in unhealthy relationships because they get accustomed to pain. The fear of uncertainty is what seems normal. They believe that if they stick it out, things might change. With a false sense of hope and desperation, denial will keep you in a state of one day someday. (aka waste years of your life) lol   If you have low self-esteem or are codependent, you may be unaware of your feelings, guiding you.   Toxic attachment is hard to escape the cycle of

Abusive/toxic relationships makes you distrustful of others and yourself. You become sidetracked by how long you put up with a terrible relationship and environment. So guilt and humiliation rule your existence. You believe all men are bad. This kind of nice treatment is love bombing and manipulation, it can’t be real. You expect guys to leave without closure or to diminish your self-worth. But every day, the good guy shows he's the same guy. Someone has told you that you don't deserve the best. So you reject it. You don't want to be humiliated again, so you destroy the good. You're expecting a battle. Instead, everything is explained and discussed in a calm manner. Then comes a feeling of calm, and you understand that ordinary people don't retreat and destroy when anything goes wrong. He'll wonder why you apologize so often and for what. He'll notice the hurt from someone who made you doubt yourself in the past. I know someone taught you tough love, in the past. You've had to suffer a lot of things you didn'

If you're depressed, anxious, fatigued, or have an autoimmune disease, these are the things you should look into before medication. One of the first recommendations when dealing with depression, anxiety, fatigue, or an autoimmune disease is medication. It took over ten years to develop the information I'm about to share. This is what I did to heal myself without medication through alternative medicine, therapy, food, supplements, personal development, and exercise. Listen in as I dissect all of the options and alternatives for self-healing.

A traumatic experience impacts your perception of your life and yourself, resulting in psychological trauma. People with PTSD are continuously scared of their bodies, and they've honed their skills at ignoring gut instincts and numbing awareness of what's going on inside. By precisely placing long-acting local anesthetic (ropivacaine) around the stellate ganglion, the unproductive and chronic “fight or flight” response is turned off for several hours. This allows neurotransmitters in the brain to “reset” back to a non-anxiety state. This “resetting” results in long-term relief of anxiety symptoms. The SGB may improve daily activities, sleep, relationships, mood, employment and more. SGB works to reset the fight or flight system in the body to help restore function. People suffering from elevated fight or flight responses, like in PTSD, will benefit from a SGB treatment on the nerves involved in mediating these responses. Specifically, this treatments resets the brain to baseline or pre-traumatic levels.    IG

Why attachment? There are many ways to be attached to things in life, like having attachments to people, emotions, jobs, image, food, and so on. Attachment typically stems from a fear of losing control. Can you make friends with the unknown and accept things as they come your way?  What would happen if you lost that attachment?  What fears might come true?  What would be available in my life if I let go of that attachment ? We suffer when we put our happiness dependent on others, money, success, things, or circumstances. Attachments clings. We abandon our freedom and react emotionally to get what we want and reject what we don't.  Imagine being free of attachments?     IG: Coachkate1 

The primary reason why individuals fail to achieve their goals is because they cannot identify a strong correlation between the desired outcome and the actual actions needed to achieve it.   Outcome goals are the end results you want to accomplish, while process goals are the stages you'll need to take to get there. The outcomes goals are not always entirely predictable. The most usual issue individuals fail to achieve their goals is because they are unable to link the desired outcome to the required process. Do you focus solely on outcome?  Or do you try to find methods to improve the process in order to get better results?  

Affirmations are useful but not always effective. Positive affirmations could even do more harm than good. I’ll explain my point of view.    People have a hard time believing things that they know aren't true. Bold statements will almost certainly be met with resistance, and they may even backfire, resulting in a stronger defense of one's original viewpoint.   Positive affirmations do not work because they are directed at the conscious level of your mind rather than the unconscious level of your mind...    The unconscious mind is the archive for all of our memories and past experiences. And everything we are aware of at any given moment is in our conscious mind.   Every time you tell yourself something that sounds positive, your unconscious will repeat to you, "That's not true, that's not true!"  This creates mental and physical tension…It's similar to when someone compliments you, you cringe, too.    So instead give this a try!    “What if?” question generates no previous precedent, paradigm, or example, and

You've probably heard that the most important relationship you have is with yourself. However, how frequently do you hear of people who are working towards that goal?  We are born into this world and advised to find a life partner, but we are never taught or shown how to develop a relationship with ourselves.   Treat yourself, eat some cake, get your nails done, take a bath, and love yourself….That isn't love.   Recognizing, overcoming, facing, and grieving those aspects of yourself that no longer serves you starts there.    It's about living & following your deepest values and doing things that important to you while still making a difference in the world.    It's how you feel and act toward yourself, as well as the things you  say on a regular basis.  When you need it the most, it's being compassionate, patient, and kind to yourself…..    Have you ever wondered why it's easier to deflect compliments than it is to embrace them?   Tune into this weeks episode! @coachkate1

Why do we destroy the very things we want in life ? Why do we want love yet take all the wrong actions towards fulfilling that desire ?  What if the things you struggle to acknowledge in others you lack within yourself?  What if every failed relationship is just a reflection of the relationship with yourself?    @coachkate1 

Just  like our physical health, everyone has mental health. Mental health and physical health go hand in hand, I believe that having one without the other and the meaning we assign to it is where I see the disconnect.  Physical health is the state and functioning of your entire body, and mental health is the state of your emotions, mind and over all daily feelings. ‘Mental health’ and ‘mental illnesses are being used as if they mean the same thing, but they are not. Mental illness can be classified as things like depression, anxiety, bi-polar, eating disorders etc. Our mental health boils down to our ability to solve problems, overcome difficulties, make meaningful connections, regulate/understand our emotions, thoughts and feelings. “Great” mental health isn’t about feeling pumped every day and super confident 100% of the time, it’s a daily watering of your highest self. It’s about  learning how to be compassionate and understanding yourself while developing the habits, systems and copping skills that work t

We live in a world full of beauty standards defined by external factors like the media and society. Have you ever stopped to think what beauty standards you are personally following and why?  Realizing there is a subconscious programing, that we were either born into or inherited by our external environments that shaped our thinking. Why are we following a standards that have nothing to do with our personal beliefs, values and level of standards?  How can you truly be happy by living and viewing beauty through a collective standard? Think about it....  I believe when you begin to question, de-program and re-program yourself to your own definition of what beauty is, you can reduce the amount of suffering and the limited views we've constructed towards this false sense of reality.  The beauty industry is a multi-billion dollar industry that counts on our weak minds, insecurities and drives us to distort ourselves to fit into some image of ‘perfection’ that will never be attainable.  Tune in! @coachkate1 

  I love speaking in metaphors and this episode is all about when you choose to pave your own path in life.  We are all on this journey called life, right? Every day we are working towards something and there is a path to that goal. The path others expect of us, or the path you know that’s driven from your internal GPS.   When you see roadblocks do you see a STOP signs or opportunities?   When you have to make a detour do you use it to your advantage or keep going in the wrong direction? Have you ignored your check engine light that’s been on for the last 100 mile?   You can’t fill your tank up half way and expect to go the distance.

Most motivation crumples under any test of hardship or adversity. Motivation is unreliable due the fact it relies mostly on emotions and external forces generating it. Motivation makes you feel like you can do something for the time being. While being driven keeps you in the game for the long run. Being driven is different. It’s an obsession that consumes you to act regardless of your circumstances or feelings. It’s a pull not a push. It’s choosing something outside of how you feel due to the fact you see the larger picture. Drive can’t be bought or sold. It means that even after you’ve arrived at your destination, you still won’t stop….. ever.    

By challenging your current beliefs through action, will you begin to conquer your limiting beliefs. I think how anyone got from point A – to B wasn’t by thinking alone, it was by taking action. Or else we would all close our eyes and be millionaires with a 6 pack by now. How do you build confidence? You do things that require you to be confident.… and eventually you become that.  Of course, the mental aspect is just as important but where most people get stopped is in their minds. So it only goes that far…. The solution to that roadblock is getting beyond the mind and how do you do that? Action...

The way to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first rather than the goal. Your current behaviors, belief system and mindsets are a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are, consciously or subconsciously. To transform your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself and what's possible for you. “I want to lose weight”  “I want to lose 20 pounds”  These goals are centered around our performance or our appearance. Performance and appearance goals are great to strive towards , but they aren’t the same as habits. 

Here in this podcast I share my life after Ayahuasca. Its been 90 days since I've gotten back from Peru and the trip truly begins when you get home.  Ayahuasca, although miraculous, is not a cure. She does not prevent us from having to face what we have avoided until we sit with her. She can only open the door. We still have to walk through it. Tune in to how I've been walking through the doors that have been opened for me and the ups and downs after Ayahuasca. My overall experience was life-changing and profound.  It was when returning to “real” life that I was  faced with what the plant showed me and for the healing to integrate I must become more conscious and make different choices daily. Creating new patterns of behavior and new ways of being is vital and it’s not easy lol Everyone’s experience is different I’m here to share my personal experience.  Nothing could be more beautiful & difficult, more terrifying, more mind-blowingly challenging than facing our own demons and shadows; the subconscious tr

Once we are more in touch with our needs and values, we can actively align our lives to honor our values and meet our needs, using them to guide our behavior so that we are able to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Simply taking a moment to ask yourself what they are ?   So ask yourself: What are my needs? What are my personal prerequisites for happiness? Not what the commercials or your friends are telling you. What is your soul telling you? Do you need more creativity, passion, fun? More time in nature? Less stress? Once you’ve started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often. Are your needs being met right now? If not, how can you make that happen?

How do you handle failure? It is human to fail. It is human to make mistakes. So why do we shame and avoid it? Knowing how you handle failure is just as important as reaching success. Get clear about what you consider to be success first, and make sure that it’s your concept, not your what your friends and family think success is. Failing is life’s way of showing you that you need to improve, grow and shift your approach. But keep your goal and aim the same. It’s not about how big or small the failure is but how you react, respond, and process the result. Trying to minimize your feelings or distract yourself can be counter-productive in the longer term. One reason why some people find failure devastating is that their identity is tied up in succeeding. They view the failure as who they versus an external result.

Find an excuse to win, not to loose. The distance between where you are right now and where you really want to go can be measured by the amount of excuses you make or don’t make. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, and making excuses sounds rational to keep us out of harms way. Thank goodness we have the instinct to avoid dangerous situations, but it also keep most people from not really going after what they want. A tiger chasing you and you opening a new business, the same alert goes off in our brain. People say things like… I’ll stay in my 9-5 job because I have health insurance. Meanwhile your health is deteriorating because you hate what you do. But you convince yourself it’s safer to stay, because of the security, and pursuing your purpose then feels unsafe. God didn’t created humans to only live for health insurance. Making excuses is a habit. One excuse creates a landslide of more excuses.  This is the power of repetition. You don’t become unhealthy overnight. Just like you don’t become successfu