Abundance Hack

Welcome to Abundance Hack Podcast, the sanctuary for your soul and soundboard for personal growth. I am your host, Niajae, and you're tuning into Episode 223, "From Fawning To Flourishing: The Pursuit of Authentic Connection And Self-Loyalty" I dive deep into the world of fawning, a trauma response rooted in childhood, defined by a pattern of people-pleasing to maintain safety and avoid conflict. I'll share my own journey of recognizing and overcoming the urge to fawn, and why I've grown to be wary of adults who continue this behavior. We'll explore how fawning can undermine our emotional intelligence, lead us toward self-abandonment, and trap us in the pursuit of perfectionism. I'll discuss the vital role of setting healthy boundaries and the art of being true to ourselves, beyond society's narrow definition of niceness. It's about cultivating respect, and taking care of our own needs first. As we navigate the societal pressures of non-stop hustle and the illusion of a perfect life often portrayed on social

In the last episode, I discussed building the tight circle of love, support, and intiamcy we need and desire. In this episode, I discuss the root of why we don't have the relationship dynamics we crave.  For exclusive content subscribe on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae  

The book 'The Other Significant Others' by Rhaina Cohen made me feel so validated. I am grateful for discovering this book because it helps give me language to better articulate my needs and desires.  The podcast episodes I mentioned in this episode were:  Compersion  Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000563791729 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4S9M7dOHWIF846c506KGTN?si=YSeSXCQTRW-Dn5Zpy57TPg 6 Types Of Intimacy Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000560468823 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/42kmIbb0FcRG79dAwfqM4Q?si=XXkfiYPISESpk27Ld_Bv6w   Let me know what you think, and if you have an other significant other, let's have a conversation about it. You can always reach me on the gram! https://instagram.com/niajae  

When we think of greatness we think of the success, the glitz and glam, and possibly the fame. We think of the perks of being great, but usually people don’t talk about the shadow side of greatness. In this episode, I share 3 things I had to learn and accept about greatness.  Healing frequency in the background is 528hz which activates the Solar Plexus Chakra for courage.  Follow me on Instagram and subscribe to my exclusive content https://www.instagram.com/niajae  

In this episode I talk about the state of society, how we’re in uncharted territory, and how we can handle it, so we can live the abundant lives we truly desire. Episodes I mention Grounded In Reality  https://open.spotify.com/episode/0MyPuqZYhp0s4YavsouSMy?si=qf_JinQ1TROjpDd2T5ou5w Zest For Life  https://open.spotify.com/episode/61arRSdSYpWo0wWo39UbfL?si=sASkxQliSlepo2hh26r2Iw Life Buckets  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ym8varzziCIsQK8m3eojh?si=Kx2Vb1Y2SsuMPayK17btww Dark Night Of The Soul https://open.spotify.com/episode/7ud2cH7wTYURovTJkxzlSn?si=4w45R_WYTH6xK74yWce0RQ If you gain value from this podcast and want to show me some love and gratitude, you can Buy me a drink (coffee/ tea or a glass of wine) Venmo https://venmo.com/u/NiajaeCash App https://cash.app/$niajae1PayPal Contact@niajae.com Website https://www.niajae.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae

I study the emotional root cause of physical ailments, and one of the books I have as a resource basically say everything is traced back to a dysfunctional upbringing. Did we all have dysfunctional childhoods? I dive into that in this episode.  If you gain value from this podcast and want to show me some love and gratitude, you can Buy me a drink (coffee/ tea or a glass of wine) Venmo https://venmo.com/u/NiajaeCash App https://cash.app/$niajae1PayPal Contact@niajae.com Website https://www.niajae.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae

In this episode, I share a letter I wrote to my younger self, with the hopes it inspires you to love on your inner child.  Inner child healing and re-parenting ourselves is a great way to build confidence, heal, and step into the best version of ourselves.  We do inner child healing at Bliss Bar, and I have my clients write a letter to their younger self. I felt called to do the exercise myself this week, and I'm sharing it with you.  My inner kiddo is giving your inner kiddo a big hug!  If you gain value from this podcast and want to show me some love and gratitude, you can Buy me a drink (coffee/ tea or a glass of wine) Venmo https://venmo.com/u/NiajaeCash App https://cash.app/$niajae1PayPal Contact@niajae.com Website https://www.niajae.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae

We live in times when most things aren’t what they seem, and that can cause us to not trust what we know to be true because our intuition is telling us the illusion we’re being sold isn’t reality. How can we be grounded in reality in such a superficial society? In this episode, I chat about our inner alarms. If you gain value from this podcast and want to show me some love and gratitude, you can  Buy me a drink (coffee/ tea or a glass of wine) Venmo https://venmo.com/u/NiajaeCash App https://cash.app/$niajae1PayPal Contact@niajae.com Website https://www.niajae.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae  

If you are not journaling, there’s a high probability you are self-abandoning. In this episode, I discuss the power in journaling. Download the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- https://www.niajae.com Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace  

In this episode I talk about a huge reason why some people don't journal and a very simple solution to this problem, so people feel more comfortable journaling what's truly on their heart.  Keep a look out for Part 2, where I'll dive deeper into the topic of journaling.  Download the Reclaim Your Deisres Journal Packet. Get it at https://www.niajae.com Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae

This episode dives into the importance of trusting your intuition and when something logically makes sense, but our body is communicating something different to us. In a broken system, it's more important now than ever to trust ourselves because energy doesn't lie.  Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace  

Have we lost our Zest For Life as a society? Are we at our capacities, so there's little to no room left for true enjoyment and relaxation? Or are we not present enough for true enjoyment because we're always on our phones and smart watches.  The way we are living as a society is not sustainable. Getting our Zest For Life back will improve our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing.  Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace  

Why do we cling to things, people, and situations, even if they're no longer serving us? What do these attachments actually represent to us? I dive into that in this episode. Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace  

Do we have unrealistic expectations in today's society?  Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Episodes mentioned: Compersion  Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4S9M7dOHWIF846c506KGTN?si=JIMiw7c7RDWmGZx5cseYsw Apple Podcast- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000563791729 6 Types of Intimacy   Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/episode/42kmIbb0FcRG79dAwfqM4Q?si=7fu0fjJrQeWXiNu3rgJGcw Apple Podcast- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000560468823 Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae

Because life is so demanding, we don’t seem to have time or energy for any connections that are not easy or carefree, so we’re ghosting, leaving on read, and disposing of anything that isn’t easy. Lovers, even though it seems like the right thing to do to protect our peace, it’s causing us major issues. I dive into that in this episode.   Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet- Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw https://www.niajae.com/ Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace

What makes you feel unlovable? What part of you do you hide because you feel it will make people reject or abandon you? How much of that is societal programming? This is important data that shapes our reality. Keep the podcast lights on by downloading the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet-  Direct link https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae I recently got into TikTok. See the shenanigans I post about here https://www.tiktok.com/@niajaewallace  

Boundaries are put into place to protect us. Just like everything in life, there has to be a balance. People can have too many boundaries and be rigid, and some can have not enough boundaries and are constantly taken advantage of. In this episode, I talk about finding your perfect balance of boundaries. Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet  Direct link- https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae https://www.niajae.com/  

If you release shame, what is it that you truly desire?  In this episode, I share my thoughts after listening back to the last episode. I realize how much shame controls how we see the world, ourselves, and how we show up. When we can release the shame, we can truly step into life in its fullness and enjoy this human experience.  Keep the podcast lights on and download the Reclaim Your Desires Journal Packet. Get it here https://niajae.mykajabi.com/offers/BG9SBtyw Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae  

There is no question we hold so much shame around our pleasure. I've found that this is causing people to lose their zest for life and even impacting our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. So, I am bringing a trauma informed sexologist, Priestess Francesca, to dive into why we have so much shame around intimacy.  Francesca is an erotic activist, sexual revolutionary, and advocate for collective liberation through erotic embodiment of all forms.  She has founded The School of Erotic Mysteries and is the trusted professional sex worker for spiritual seekers healing, growth and transformation journey. She's been featured in Cosmopolitan, Health Magazine, and Grand Central Publishing as she passionately destigmatizes and celebrates non-traditional sex, intimacy, and relating pathways. Website: https://www.priestessfrancesca.com/ Instagram: @priestessfrancesca1 The School of Erotic Mysteries: Learn More & Join!

Is your confidence attached to something external? Regardless of what the external looks like, do you have internal confidence? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/niajae