Sex Nerd Sandra

  CROWDSOURCING LOVE & SEX! Coming back from Reid Mihalko's Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sandra asks fellow campers about how to find love, how to get laid and other tidbits. TOPICS: Creating a relationship that befits you, Finding compatibility, Being aggressively yourself, Filtering people, Setting expectations, Loving yourself first, Don't underestimate yourself or others, Reflecting on self-treatment, Fill your cup first, Loving from a strong place, Diability and the right to sex, Asking for assistance, Be interested not interesting, Eye contact, Find people who like sex the way you do, Make yourself comfortable, Rejection, List your accomplishments, Fill yourself up before someone else does, Let them discover you, Butter churn, Care & Feeding manual, Smiling, Breathing and Laughter, Making noise, Know how much you can give to yourself and remember folks, the vagina can take a lot of pressure. Thanks to everyone who shared!

HAND HUMPING! Author and advocate Pamela Madsen teaches Sandra to rock out with her arousal out. BUT FIRST! Sandra ask Jason a prying question. TOPICS: Ball Cupping, Flaccid State Pleasure, Erectile Dysfunction, Losing Sight of Pleasure, Low Libido, Lotus Lift Meditation, Finding Arousal, Religious Movement, Aroused Meditation, The Heel Trick, Depak Chopra, Childhood Shaming, Numbness, Erotic Energy, Inner Pharmacy, Kegels, All Day Arousal, Lighting Up Our Bodies, Observer Sex, Self Esteem, Un-armouring Ourselves, Roleplay, Power and the 3 questions to ask yourself when you're turned on!  

THE ORGASMATRON! Continuing onward with the creator of the adorable webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen and comedian Amy Miller, Sandra ponders sex toys, workshops and the sexier side of Portland. TOPICS: Bad Dragon Toys, Clitoral Slumber, Sybian, Erika's First Sex Ed Workshop, Deep-throating, She Bop, Palates, Strip Clubs, Hypothesis, Culture of Excess, Courtney Love & Kurt Cobain, Being Vanilla, Horny All the Time, Ball Kicking, Sex Communities of PDX, Theories, 3nder Threesome App, So Many Holes, Eiffel Tower, Sex Party Decisions, Club Sesso vs Kinky Salon, Webcomic Advice, BDSM Stories and Vaginal Plugs.

WHAT’S UNDER THE BLANKET? Sandra flies to Portland to podcast live with the creator of the wildly popular webcomic “Oh Joy Sex Toy,” Erika Moen. BUT FIRST, comedian Amy Miller spills it about dating, sex and love in Portland. TOPICS: Casual Sex, Dating Younger Men, “No Worries,” Being a Sex Educator vs Cartoonist, Dar, Penny Arcade’s Robert Khoo, The OJST Origin Story, The Dick & Vagina Crowd, Battle Hardened C*nt, Hitachi vs Doxy, Spontaneous Orgasms, Minna Limon vs Je Joue MiMi, 5 Mystery Sex Toys, Delivering “The Buisness,” Nipple Antennae, Dalek Roleplay, Bath House, Swinger Club, Butt Stuff and the toy that leaves Erika speechless.

CAN YOU BE TOO LUBRICATED? Sandra answers her inbox, wrestling with a genital and relationship conundrum. TOPICS: Erotic Hypnosis, Quickie Lengths, Sex Friction, Fast Sex, Kitty Litter, Selfish Spouses, Being on Team Fun and The Whole Point of Sex.  

THE UNCANNY VALLEY AND THE MOST AMAZING BALLS! Sinthetics makers Matt Krivicke and Bronwen Keller help Sandra explore the world of the most lifelike, anatomically correct silicone dolls on the market. But first, comedian Kurt Braunohler weighs in. TOPICS: Judgement, Fantasy, Threesomes, Mannequins and Art Pieces, "Lars and the Real Doll," Ownership, Origins, Art, Life Saving, Creepy Factor, Torso Sex, Penis Size, Teledildonics, Robotics, Male Dolls, Replicating Life, Mad Scientist, Penis Molding, Labia Art, Vulva Perfume, Bags of Buttholes, Vagankle, Doll Gape, Doll Tongue, Collectors, Forums and Community, Loneliness, Client Stories, Compassion, Body Mechanics and How to Meet the Dolls!

Sociologist Dr. Lisa Wade reveals the fascinating reality behind hook-up culture, what it is, and surprising ways to do it better. TOPICS: College Students Trapped on Campus, Choice vs Obligation, Expectation, Narrowly-defined Sexual Exploration, Orgies, College Parties, Paula England, Science!, Orchestrated Chaos, 1920s: The Crazy Years, Courting vs Dating, Heterosexual Socializing, Makeup & Dieting Origins, Slaves & Prostitutes, The Charleston, 1940s: Same Sex Experimentation, Richard von Krafft-Ebing, McCarthyism, Foreign Wives, 1950s: Lock it Down!, 1960s: Sexual Revolution!, Promiscuity, Value of the Masculine vs Feminine, Andro-Centrism vs Sexism, Emotionaless Sex, Broken Sexuality?, Resiliency, Respect-Kindness-Trust vs Desperate-Needy-Clingy, Rules of Hook-up Culture, Benevolent Casual Sex, Attachment Management and Friends with Benefits.

EARLY SEX & LOVE! Comedian Kurt Braunohler helps Sandra wrestle with the question, “Can we be fulfilled in early relationships?” TOPICS: Judgement, Rumshrpinga(?????), “This American Life,” Falling in Temporary Love, Casual Sex, Feeling Resentful & Unfulfilled, Inevitability vs Possibility, Scared & Alone, “Chinatown Bust,” Dismissing Doubts, Grass is Greener, The Ideal Person, Persona, Fantasizing & Flirting with Others, Romantic Discontent, Exploring, Settling into Roles, “They Came Together,” Soul Mates, Completing Yourself, Choosing Your Person, Trapped, Handling Loneliness, Living Alone, Boredom, Inner Tardis, Breaking Up vs Growing Together, Cheating, Baby Fever, Inauthenticity and Sexual History.

DOES BOOZE MAKE US HORNY? Author and science journalist Adam Rogers ("Proof: The Science of Booze") takes us through the sex & alcohol laboratories and reveals all the butt stuff along the way. BUT FIRST! Attorney Allan Gelbard explains this week's Supreme Court decision placing the employer between a woman and her doctor. TOPICS: The Effect of Ethanol on the Brain, Magic Mushrooms, Scientific Mysteries, Placebo Booze, "Drunken Comportment," Soda Pop Opiates, Drunken Promiscuity, Unsafe Sex, Increased Aggression, Gin vs Bourbon, Psychoactive Mechanisms, Thujone, Horny-Making, Inebriated Arousal, Erections, Hangovers and THE POWER OF SUGGESTION! BONUS: Contraception, Hobby Lobby, Enforcing Beliefs on Others, Religious Freedom, Justice Ginsberg, Corporate Taxation, Fertility Issues, 401k Hypocrisy, Viagra, Unpaid Maternity Leave, Election Repercussions, Voting, Sex Positive Professionals and Critical Reasoning.

SHARK ROLEPLAY & SECRET CRUSHES! Comedian & late bloomer Jackie Kashian (The Dork Forest, This Will Make an Excellent Horcrux) dishes on finding her spouse and developing great bedroom teamwork! TOPICS: Comedian Socializing, Depression Contests, Horcrux, Polyamory, Ultimatums, First Boyfriend, Comedy Sex Life, Cheating, Late Blooming, Making Friends, Joke Wisdom, Porn vs Comedy, Money, Tools of Comedy, Generalizing Women, Online Dating Strategy, The Universal Friend Zone, Her Love Story, Sweat Equity, 60 Year-Old Vagina, Sex Abuse, Sexual Fantasies, Triggers. One Night Stand, Game Mechanics, LARPing, @Midnight and remember folks, sex is supposed to be fun!  

Comedian and actress Rachel Butera (Howard Stern, America's Got Talent) shares how great breast fondling can feel... if done well. Then we discover the mysteries of bra engineering. TOPICS: Rosie O'Donnel Impression, Breast Slang (Jugs vs Titties vs Boobies vs Knockers), Boobs in the Raw, Good Cleavage, Sex Physics, The World's Greatest Tits, Bra Math, 42C vs 38DD, Breast Pawing vs Cupping, The Underneath, Caressing Tips, BE THE BRA!, Fondling, Starting with Broad Strokes, Nipple Orgasms, Butt Cheeks, THE IDEAL TIT EXPERIENCE, Tongue Flicking, Almost-Areola, Tongue Swooping, Kick Ass Casual Sex, Boob Smacking, Pleasurable Jiggling, Porn Phantom Sensation, Cleavage Politics, An Air of Mystery. THEN: One-Handed Bra Unclasping, How to Effectively Put on a Bra, Engineering and the Magic of Side Boob Smooshing.

  BLOWJOB SIMULATIONS & SEX IMPROV! Comedian Moshe Kasher and Sex Educator Ashley Manta share their stories at both ends of a phone sex chat line. TOPICS: Virgin Adolescent Phone Sex, Bar Mitzvah Money, Gay Chat Lines, Orientation Theories, Manikins, The Phone Bill, Virginity, Deaf Phone Sex Story, Comedy Special, Foreign Workarounds, Filipino Mystery Call. THEN: Frisky Feminist Press, Sounding Sexy, Fake Ad Pictures, Sex Work, Popular Requests, Fake Gagging, Cigarette Fetishists, Fart Noises, Mirroring, Torture Fantasy, Favorite Callers, Body Quivering, Fake Orgasms and Alabama Preachers!

  TASTE THE RAINBOW! Sandra explores the athletic world of water sports. TOPICS: Squiks, Piss Play, Submission, Sterility Myths, Maple Syrup, Hydration, Open Relationships, Babygirl, Nipple Clamp Ingenuity, Taboo, Urine Enema, Anatomy, Hollow Butt Plugs, Urine Bong, Humiliation, Alpha Dogs, Puppy Pits, Gender, Medical Concerns, Pee vs Clowns, Acquired Taste, Gag Reflex, Beer, Urine Neutralizers, Corn Flakes, Vulnerability, Asparagus, Logistics, Getting Pee-shy, Chugging, Pungency and  the age old question of blood vs spit vs pee. Yum! 

TRIGGER WARNING! Sandra searches for understanding and insight in the wake of the Isla Vista shootings. Therapist Dr. Chris Donaghue and writer Barbie Davenporte weigh in. TOPICS: Terrorism, Mental Health, Relationality, Chicken or Egg, Fragmentation, Disassociation, Fox News' Homosexual Impulses, Othering, Entitlement, Babies & Puppies, Misogyny, Gender as Social Construct, Universal Needs, Alpha and Beta Males, Healthy Anxiety, #NotAllMen, Compassion & Empathy. THEN: Feminism, Equality for All, More Hashtags, Comic-Con Upskirt Photo, Parking Lots, Gay Bars, Jamaican Street Harassment and Club Humping.

FEELINGS ARE EVERYWHERE! What do we do when we feel repulsed by our own body? Elaine shares her experience with body dysmorphia and sex educator Elle Chase shares tools to find outer peace. TOPICS: Louis C.K., OCD, Dr. Ari Winograd, Cultivating Sources of Beauty, Cellulite, Pubic Hair, Seeking Help, Nerds, Escaping Feelings, Self-Help Pitfalls, Sandra's Bully, Embodied Feelings, Deep-throating. THEN: Can you handle that nothing is wrong with you? Beach Body, Big n Tall Shops, Looking Healthy, Healthy Ways to Compliment Someone, Feeling Good vs Sexy, Relationship Red Flags, Charisma, Sexy vs Sensual, Food Metaphors, Finding Your Sexy, Mirror Masturbation, Feeling Guilty, and FYI No One Cares (what you look like).

  Sandra explores the Venn diagram of sex & comics with creators Jason Porath (Rejected Princesses), Dean Trippe (Something Terrible) and Matt Fraction (Sex Criminals)! TOPICS: Batman Theory, "Saga," "Y the Last Man," Tina Fey, Joker, Women in Refridgerators, Tropes, "Alias," "Frozen," "Invincible" Spoilers on Issue #110. // Sexual Abuse, Batman, The Multiverse, Dr. Who, Comic-con Stories, The Taxi Driver, Sexual Healing, Robin, Time Travel, Changing Our Narratives. // Alter Egos, James Bond, Chip Zdarsky, "The Fermata," "Out of This World," Billy Wilder, Selling Sex and a new, surprising fan base.

LOVE AT FIRST SITE & THE SPEED OF ATTRACTION! Sandra searches for the facts on how to choose someone who is right for you. Sex educator Elle Chase shares her current dilemma, while therapist Kate Loree throws down some knowledge on what the person you fall in love with says about YOU! TOPICS: Ego, Ignoring Your Instincts, Life Experience, Storytelling, Dating Site Fails, Young Guys, Courting Process, The List, Valid Feelings, New Relationship Energy, Neurochemicals, Imago Therapy, Falling in Love, Corrective Experience, Emotional IQ, Breakup Pain, The Known vs Unknown, Exhilaration and Finding a Growth-Oriented Partner. P.S. DON'T DATE WHEN YOU'RE LONELY!

MORE DRAMA! Comedian Jenn Tisdale, sex educator Twanna Hines and several audience members including science journalist Pere Estupinyà weight in! TOPICS: Jealousy, Security, Giving Up, Monogoamy vs Marriage, OkTwitter, Depression, Swinging Monogamists, "Sexually Social," This American Life, Paradox of Choice, Online Dating, Dying Alone, "Manic Pixie Dream Girl," Codependence, Personal Growth, "Fewer the Merrier," Halo Effect of Monogamy, Social vs Sexual Monogamy, The Science of Falling in Love and THE BEST ACCENT EVER.

DRAMA! Sex Educator Twanna Hines and comedian Jenn Tisdale help Sandra explore the myriad questions of monogamy. TOPICS: Dating Complications, When a Relationship Begins, Denying Feelings, Ongoing Intention, James Deen, Being a Good Person, One-Sided Monogamy, Keeping Secrets, Managing Your Relationship, Appreciating What You Have, Runaway Train, Attraction, Guilt, Flirting, Needing Attention & Jealousy. Stay tuned next week when we pickup on jealousy… AND BEYOND!

  KINK CONTRACTS, LOVE LETTERS & SEX GUIDES. Lauren Marie Flemming a.k.a. Queerie Bradshaw shares easy ways for writing to improve your love & sex life. PLUS Gregory Scott a.k.a. UBK of Kush Audio tries to figure out why Sandra feels broken. Good luck, UBK! TOPICS: Small Town Girl, Gonorrhea, Sex & Loss, Breakups, Postcards, Love Letters, Negotiating Consent, Law Degree, Sharing Fantasies, Analogue, Depression Jar, Truth or Dare, Pen & Paper Fetish, Frisky Feminist Press, Twitter, Steve Almond, Showing-not-Telling, Yes/Hell Yes/Maybe/Not Really/Hell No List, Need/Want/Can't List, Erotica, Flying Wish Paper and Hard Truths. THEN: Nanowrimo, Commitment, Choosing a Topic, Frustration, Memoir, Feeling Selfish, Gay Face on a Plane, Pseudonym, Kinds of Artists, Finishing Things and Sex & Music.