Sex Nerd Sandra

WHAT IS A LEATHER DADDY? Orpheus & Indigo are back, answering Sandra's questions about the mysterious world of leather, leading up to their entry in the SoCal Master/slave Contest (sclms.net). Artist Jenny Fine helps Sandra prepare. TOPICS: Fish Panties, Depression, Leather Puppy, Police Academy, Fractals, 1950s Relationships, Fitting In, Angry Black Woman, Anger, Whipped, Emotional Enslavement, Leather Mythos, WWII, Tom of Finland, Earning Your Boots, Poly Relationships, Quad Geometry and Hook Suspensions!

NERVE NINJAS & BLINDFOLD SCIENCE! Physical Therapist Adam Whitman takes Sandra on a sensual tour of our nervous system. Oh THAT'S why that feels like that! Body awareness for the win! TOPICS: Fitness, Muscle vs Nerves, Lying Patients, Words for Pain, Bend Over Magic, Two-Point Discrimination, Sensory Cortex, Fun Experiments, Healing Headaches, Stereognosis, Proprioception, Layering Sensation, Graphesthesia, Light Touch/Pain/Temperature vs Vibration/Proprioception/Fine Touch, Whole Body Sensation, Orgasm Tips, Nerve Pathways, Eastern vs Western Medicine, Myokinesthetics, Reciprocal Inhibition, Muscle Flexing & Orgasm Training, Genitals in the Brain, Changing Blood Flow, Caveman Hand, Massage, Spanking, Ticklishness, plus a BONUS look at scar tissue's unique play potential!

USING SEX TO SELL SEX! Sex worker, podcaster and writer Siouxsie Q sets Sandra straight on the sex industry. Comedian & podcaster Matt Kirshen shares surprising insight into sex work, comedy and the universe. TOPICS: Bad Day at Work, Lusty Lady, Whorientation, Firefly's Inara, Good vs Bad Sex Work, Politics, Human Rights, Emotional Health, Violence & Exploitation, The Happy Hooker Notion, Selling Sex, Annie Sprinkle, Companion Services, Self-Care, "Prostitute," Choice & Coercion, Criminalizing the Job, "Johns," Slixa, Better Crime Fighting.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS? Sex Researcher and Developmental Psychologist Dr. Zhana Vrangalova geeks out on casual sex's effect on mental health. Facts are presented, myths are busted and she sets us straight on whether someone must always gets hurt. PLUS BONUS SEX DUNGEON STORY! Sandra drags a vanilla friend to a kinky theme park. Feelings ensue. TOPICS: Casual Fling, Early Warning Signs, Tiny Breakups, Mental Health Factors, Defining it, F*** Buddies, The Romantic Continuum, Commitment, Positive vs Negative Reactions, Emotional Well Being, Authenticity, Safety, Reasoning, Pleasure, Drunk Hook-ups, Bonding Science, Social Stigma, Self Esteem, Doing it Well, College Dating Shifts, Swingers, Jerks, Pleasure Gap Research, Slut Shaming, Women's Sexual Pleasure, Orientation Influences on Hook Ups and SO MUCH DATA.  

SOUL MATES FOR REALSIES! Sandra seeks to understand marriage. Artist Jason Porath and marital unit Sarah and Gregory weigh in. TOPICS: Beyond the Wedding, Relief, Journeys Just Starting, Fear of Choosing Wrong, Future Kids' Names, Nightwing, Prioritizing the "We," "Venus and Mars on a Date," 1st Marriage Mistakes, Cohabitating, Wedding Ritual, Ketubah, Sex Life Changes, Tools, Cultivating Love, Couple's Therapy, Aligning Brain Waves, Recurring Arguments, Commitment Phobia, Pure "I" Statements, Going to Bed Angry, Triggers, How to Fight, and knowing the difference between who you are and how you be.  

LIES, LIES AND MORE LIES! Dr. Chris Donaghue sets the record straight on the role of cheating in today's relationships and what it means for partnerships of tomorrow. But first, Layperson Elaine admits to a guilty past. TOPICS: Dr. Chris answers many questions including "Is cheating avoidable?" "Where's the line?" and "How can you tell if a relationship is salvageable?". ALSO: Sandra in DC, Giving in to Temptation, Signs of a Healthy Relationship, Craving Diversity, Statistics, Cyber Sex, Fluid Boundaries, Uncomfortable Feelings, Absolute Chaos, Handling Jealousy & Anxiety, Cultural Changes, "Relationshipping," Romantic Comedies, Conflict vs Pain, Dopamine Highs, Rage, Lifelong Partnership Building, Novelty, Honoring Your Needs, Villainizing the Cheater, Loss of Attraction, Aging and Libido Mismatches. Wow! Feelings!  

COMMON QUESTIONS, MEDICAL EMERGENCIES & THE FIST OF KNOWLEDGE! Sandra hunts down 2 of her teachers and a classmate from the renowned & rigorous San Francisco Sex Information educator training. TOPICS: Prolapse Lady, Mom Boundaries, Accuracy, Googling Sex Info, Science Biases, The Dubious Eyebrow, Anecdotal Evidence, "Positive" Neutral Face, PubMed'ing "Rectal Foreign Bodies," Boy Scout Webelos, Coursera Classes, Good Reads, Yahoo Answers,  Favorite Sex Ed Moments, Dealing with STDs, Egg Shells and Other Things in Butts. Feel free to email any of your sex questions to ASKUS@SFSI.ORG. Sex Nerds are standing by.

  COMPLETE STRANGER SHARES HIS MASTURBATION TECHNIQUE. Artist Mike Squillacioti and a mysterious man join Sandra for a new twist on breathing during sex. TOPICS: Linguistic Distancing, The Tantra Episode, NO Erotic Asphyxiation, Swimming, Olympics, Sphincters, Nipple Clamps, Roller Coaster timing, Hypoxia, Masturbation, Porn Expectations, "Going to the Club," Bicycle Seat Prostate Pressure & a Frozen Steak to the Balls. THEN WE TURN A CORNER: "Do you need a lot of experience to be a good lover?" We discuss. 

MIND-BLOWING SEX & ZOMBIES! Author & Tickle Kitty CEO Dr. Sadie Allison and her partner & CTO John join Sandra for a romp through the land of love, orgasm & relationships. TOPICS: Jack Valentine, Singles Awareness Day, Cockring Story, Sadie's Journey, Engineering Sex Drawer Locks, Female vs Male Orgasm, How to Orgasm, "Tickle Her Fancy," Sex Toys, Troubleshooting Pleasure, Vibrators, Masturbation Attitude, John & Sadie's Love Story, Growing as a Couple, Finding Mr. & Ms. Right, Mind-blowing Sex, Flavored Lube, Butt Stuff and a hearty game of "Would You Rather…?"

TWISTED AROUSAL RESEARCH, EROTIC SCHADENFREUDE & MORE! Author of "Perv: The Erotic Deviant in All of Us," Jesse Bering, PhD expands what is normal & shares new vocab words to amaze your friends! TOPICS: The Young Turks, Objectophilia, Melissophilia, Neanderthal Source Material, Origins of Kink, Erotic Dependency, Fetish vs Paraphilia, Developmental Imprinting, Female Erotic Plasticity, Sandra's Cartoon Kink, Masochistic Tendencies, 5 Erotic Age Orientations, Virtuous Pedophiles, Innate Psychological Biases, Predicting the Future of Sex, "Squick," Roman Showers, Wall of Porn, Genetic Fitness, Studying Lust & Disgust and thinking with the right head!

NINJA SKILLS FOR SEX! Sandra gets Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus to explain a crucial technique for handling yourself in the bedroom… and beyond! TOPICS: The "Down Low," Getting Touchy-Feely, Self Care, Awareness without Judgement, The Triangle of Thoughts-Emotions-Sensations, Your Patterns, Triggers, Sandra's Trigger, Using Your Words, Tangible Feelings, A Pattern Interrupt, Run/Numb/Distract, Sandra's Dark Shadow, Favorite Negative Emotions, Manipulation, Buddhist Science, Third Eye, Astrology "Personal Growth," Brené Brown, Feeling Worthy, Dr. Who, Our Inner Geography, Resiliency, Jenn's TEDx Talk and Befriending Your Body.

DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE... America's Beloved Porn Journalist Gram Ponante helps Sandra process a wild 24 hours at the AVN Adult Entertainment Expo. TOPICS: Describing AVN, Rock & Roll, Swinger Squirting Seminar, Chocolate Dildo, National Geographic, Light Hearted Sex Party, "Sex Educator Serious," Squirting, Metaphors, G-Spot Flux Capacitor, Jack the Zipper, Celebrity Chef, Hummer Limo, Justine Joli, Jiz Lee, Ryan Mclane, Pop Rocks Sushi, Stereotypes, Porn Star Prom and the industry turning over a new leaf.

USE LUBE! Sex & relationship expert Reid Mihalko and comedian Matt Kirshen join Sandra to examine the redheaded stepchild of sexual technique. TOPICS: Key Parties, "Taking the Piss," British & German Kinks, Sploshing, Dogging, Neil Strauss, Fisting, Porn & Visual Learning, Boob Cop, Solo Practice, Biofeedback, Circus People, Ball Play, Lube Preferences, Finding the Right Speed, Finger-banging, Kissing, Laughter During Sex and Benny Hill in the Bedroom. 

REALITY TV, GLEE & WISHFUL THINKING! First, author & sex educator Dr. Logan Levkoff dishes on media literacy. Then, Sandra digs into her fan fic fantasies with Monica Moon. LOGAN TOPICS: Sexual Double Standards, Slutwalk, Judgy Newscasters, Miley Cyrus, Blurred Lines, "OITNB," "Teen Mom," "Knocked Up," Seeing What Goes Unsaid, Roe v Wade, Politics, "Game of Thrones," Sneaky Cameras, Good Girls vs Bad Girls, Vajayjay, Gay Marriage and the next generation. MONICA TOPICS: Sex Scenes, Embarrassment, The "Masters of Sex" O Face, Benedict Cumberbatch, Sexual Tension, "Doctor Who," Shoujo Manga, Lois & Superman, "Smallville," and "True Blood."

RECTUMS AND RESOLUTIONS! Delightful author & comedian Sara Benincasa opens up about her butt. TOPICS:  Kenny Powers, Special Olympics, Successful Resolution Strategy, Performance Anxiety, Orgasm Alternatives, Relaxing the Vag, Beyonce, Catholicism, Fleshbot Porn Awards, Anal Attitude, The Ol' College Tries, Wolf of Wallstreet, Girls, Control, Margaret Cho, External Butt Play and Epiphanies! PLUS Sara's impressive self-confidence Brainhack.

KINKY CHIMPS & PUNISHMENT BUKAKE! Author Dr. Katherine Frank, researcher Dr. Jamie Lawson and improv teacher Sawn Westfall join Sandra for a wild Q&A joinery through group sex and the animal kingdom! TOPICS: Egg Competition, Hyena Lady Penis, The Future of Group Sex, Transgression, Power & Hierarchy, Society & Sex, Dominance, Favorite Sex Books, Beastiality, Tahiti, Cross-Cultural Manly Cum Guzzling, Peacocks, Sexual Dysfunction, Anorgasmia, Pig Orgasms, Condoms, Gloves and Nina Hartley's Female Pleasure Trick. 

ORGIES! PENGUINS! SPERM COMPETITION! Researcher Dr. Jamie Lawson, author Dr. Katherine Frank and improv teacher Sawn Westfall join Sandra for part 1 of a wild ride through group sex and the animal kingdom! TOPICS: Improv, Pickup Artists, Dr. Who, Sexy Symmetry, Gay Penguins,  Bed Bugs, Traumatic Insemination, Bonobo Penis Jousting, Scientific Bias, Interbreeding, Group Sex, Orgies, Tribal Ritual, Sex Party Context, Waiting in Line, Power, Newbies, Sperm Swamping, Religious Rituals, Hopeful Sex and the Significance of Being Watched. STAY TUNED FOR PART 2!

FORNICATION! HEDONISM! SPILLING THY SEED!!! The marvelous Reverend Beverly Dale sheds light on Jesus, the Bible and how to connect our sexuality with spirituality. TOPICS: Liberation Theology, Defining "Grace," Jesus' Social Life, Being Human AND Divine, Pre-Marital Sex, Non-Marital Sex, "Sexual Immorality," the Marriage Covenant, Pleasure vs Hedonism, Pleasure as Worship, Lust, Adultery Now vs Then, Mortifying the Flesh, Celebrating God's Creation, Homosexuality, Acknowledging the Human Condition, Judgement vs Compassion and when to check yourself before you wreck yourself! 

Sandra knows you don't have time to go balls deep on a sex podcast this week, so she made you a light snack. TOPICS: Cum in the Eye, Hair in the Throat, Hustler Magazine, Beef & Graphene Condoms, Facebook's WORST sex tips, 3 GREAT sex tips and a tasty recipe for when family is no longer near.

VIRGIN TERRITORY! Sandra crowdsources insight to challenging questions about virginity in the age of adulthood. TOPICS: BDSM, Masturbation, Self-Advocacy, Kinsey Reports, Repeated Blooming, Sexual Satori with True Blood, Telling Your Partner, Terrific Accents, Waiting to be Straight, The Loosest Virgin, The Clingy Factor, The Everyhing-BUT-Virgin, Dating, Body Weight, Sex Work, French Kissing a Germaphobe, Trust, Tempur-Pedic Bed Secrets, Love & Lust, Born-Again Virgins, Fluidity, and Nerd Parenting. You can find the twitter handles of those who shared on this episode's post at Nerdist.com!