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Where did the idea of “happily ever after” or “finding the one” even come from in the first place? Is it even obtainable? What are some of the common myths that people buy into regarding dating and relationships? What are some of the ways people can break free from those dating myths and create the dating or love life they truly desire? About our guest: Damona Hoffman is a celebrity dating coach, host of the award-winning podcast Dates & Mates, and the official love expert of The Drew Barrymore Show. She has written dating columns for the LA Times and the Washington Post and worked as a dating expert and spokesperson for top dating apps including OkCupid, Match, and Bumble. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two children. In F The Fairytale, Damona Hoffman dismantles the dating habits and beliefs that have been leading us astray—those notions of instant chemistry and the relentless quest for "the One." She points out how modern daters are clinging to outdated rulebooks that served our grandparents

Why is sex in long term relationships heavily misunderstood? What are the myths most people have been taught about sex - particularly in LTR’s? What is the truth about spontaneous desire? What are some of the best ways partners can talk about sex and desire with one another? And what can people do with mismatched desire or when someone isn’t “in the mood”?  About our guest: Emily Nagoski, PhD is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of the revolutionary book Come as You Are, co-author of Burnout, and is now releasing her third book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. A gifted and engaging speaker, Emily is an expert on women's sexual wellbeing, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment. People bring Emily, because Emily "brings the science." To learn more go to emilynagoski.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASA

This episode is from a live Q and A at the Vibe Show in Hollywood, CA. It's two days filled with sex toys, badass educators like Dirty Lola, Tyomi, and Susan Bratton, as well as awesome humans who want to learn more about sex and pleasure. Listening on or before January 13th, 2024? AND in or near Hollywood? Well you're in luck because there's one more day of Vibe. Come visit us and join the sexy fun! To learn more visit vibeshow.com

This episode is all about fingering and hand sex on orifices - specifically pussies and assholes. Repeat guest Darshana Avila teaches us all about how to use your hands on all the holes for more pleasure (and even better orgasms). About our guest: Darshana is nurturing a culture of Erotic Wholeness. Many know her from her groundbreaking work on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop where she shared her trauma-informed, nature-based, justice-oriented approach to somatic sex and intimacy education. In her private practice and group journeys she supports people to embrace their erotic nature and thrive in their lives and relationships. To learn more visit darshanaavila.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and get free access to our online workshop How to Pamper Your Partner for every book preorder (offer/workshop is exclusive to preorders). Other links: Become a st

In this ad-free bonus episode we get to know Meesh, a badass retired elite rhythmic gymnast who is now a kinky poly nudist healer. Meesh shares how she utilized sex as part of her personal healing journey from CPTSD, what it means to her (and how it enriches her life) to be a nudist and how this differs from being an exhibitionist, as well as how she tapped into her ultimate free sexual self (and how you can too!). Stay tuned to be inspired by the wonderful Meesh. About our guest: Meesh is an artist embodiment coach and writer. Her mission in life is to bring freedom to people’s lives through embracing curiosity. Meesh has 10 plus years of coaching experience. She began her journey to feel freedom after she moved out of her parents at 18. She has since learned the affects that awareness and authenticity can have on a person’s healing journey and implements them into her embodiment coaching. She spends her time writing, climbing, coaching, traveling, studying spirituality and exploring movement. Follow Meesh:

Can psychedelics (mushrooms, ayahuasca, MDMA, ketamine, etc) help with sexual healing? If so, how? Can they enhance eroticism and pleasure? What is psychedelic therapy? How can someone find the right therapist or practitioner for them? About our guest: Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist #88224 specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine assisted psychotherapy (KAP). She is a published researcher and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro​science, somatic theory, psychedelics, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work for private practice, workshops, and transformational retreats that are designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. For personal therapy work, check her out at Psychology Today. ​She co-hosts Un.done Yoga, a women’s sensual yoga + breathwork experience with singer songwriter, Lena Oz

What are some of the main causes of erectile issues for penis owners? Are they usually physiological or psychological? And when it comes to psychological erectile issues, what can people do for better, stronger firmer erections? What if I try all the "hacks" and nothing works? What are my other options? About our guest: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a sex and relationship expert and has helped many individuals and couples improve their sex lives and restore and achieve deep and passionate connections with their partners. In addition to hosting the top 20 rated Sexology podcast, Dr. Moali launched a similar, top-rated podcast in Farsi in 2016 and has extensive training in treatment of eating disorders an addiction from some of the nation’s leading experts. She is a published researcher who regularly gives talks at major universities and international conferences, and has given therapy advice and information on local television shows. Dr. Moali has her postdoctoral training in sexual wellness and trauma. To learn more g

What are “kink roles”? What is age play? Why are some people into age play and what do they get out of it? What if someone wants to bring age play into the bedroom? Where do they start and how can they talk to their partners about it?  About our guest: Heather Shannon is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. In private practice since 2011, she’s helped thousands of clients experience more freedom and authenticity in their sex lives than ever before.  Heather has her Master’s in Counseling from Loyola University Chicago, is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and has a Certificate in Sexual Health from the University of Michigan. Additionally, she is trained as an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, Shambhala Meditation Guide, and Integrative Health Coach. Drawing upon her holistic training, she tailors her work to each client and offers an intersectional approa

What are the pros and cons of watching porn? How can porn enhance someone's (sex) life, and how is it harmful? Is porn or sex addiction real? How might someone know they have an issue with viewing porn? What if I feel like porn is affecting my sexual and personal life and I want to work on it? Also, does the type of porn I watch matter? And if I once had an issue with porn does this mean I can never watch it again? The brilliant Gigi Engle answers all this and more. About our guest: Gigi Engle, ACS, COSRTreg., GSRD-accred., is a London-based, certified sex and relationships psychotherapist, sex educator and author of All The F*cking MIstakes. Her work regularly appears in many publications including Cosmo, Glamour, Men's Health, and Refinery29. In 2019, she was named Journalist of The Year at The Sexual Freedom Awards and in 2023, she was nominated for the XBIZ Sexpert of the Year award. Gigi's IG  Gigi's TikTok Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulu

We are on a roll for all-time fangirl moments! In this episode we interview podcast icon Dan Savage of the Savage LoveCast! We learn all about the changes in the field of human sexuality Dan has witnessed as a sex columnist since the 90’s (and podcaster since 2006), as well as his thoughts on the ever-shifting language around sex, gender and orientation. We also explore various terms in his latest book Savage Love From A to Z including DTMFA, Fuck First, GGG, Monogamish, secret perving, and why Dan's top sex and relationship advice is to ask your partner “What are you into?”. About our guest: Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows. “Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated worldwide. Dan has published seven books.  In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in, sex advice podcast. It has 300,000 unique monthly downloads and 100,00

This episode was recorded during Shameless Sex Podcast's first women's retreat in Costa Rica. We talk all about how to extend orgasms, anal sex safety, witchy "orgasms", and finding sexy like-minded community - all via questions and comments from actual retreat participants. Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for the next Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Click here to learn more or sign up here

In this episode four badass women come together from Double Teamed and Shameless Sex podcasts to talk all things casual sex, anal sex, DTF, secondary erogenous zones, dirty talk, non-monogamy, kink, cheating and affairs, cone dicks, spitting during sex, and beyond. Get ready to laugh and learn while getting Double Teamed by Shameless Sex. About our guests: Double Teamed Podcast is on a mission to bring awareness to non-monogamy, kink, and sexuality and help make these taboo subjects more understood and accepted by our younger generations. Cami & Niki love to get honest and vulnerable with their listeners, discussing their experiences in open relationships, dating, Dominance & submission, and sex parties. Find them anywhere you listen to podcasts and across your favorite social media platforms. To learn more visit doubleteamedpodcast.com Come to our live mini-workshop + book launch event at Blue Boutique in Salt Lake City on December, 8th! Grab your tickets here Order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and g

Another major fan girl moment for Shameless Sex! In this episode we interview another one of our idles, Dr. Carol Queen. If you thought April was a sex toy mogul then be prepared to be wowed by the queen of sex toys and sex education. In this episode we discuss the meaning of sex-positivity, the evolution of pleasure products and sex ed, as well as our top recommendations for toys and lube. And the best part? We had the honor of recording this episode in the Antique Vibrator Museum at San Francisco's Good Vibrations! About our guest: Dr. Carol Queen is a writer and cultural sexologist with a Ph.D. in human sexuality. Queen is active on behalf of progressive sex education and sexual diversity and has been speaking and writing about non-mainstream sexualities, from lesbian to leather, for over 35 years. Queen also works as staff sexologist, company historian, and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations, the women-founded sex toy and bookstore in San Francisco. To learn more click here or visit

What did working as an adult film star teach Erik Everhard about sexual mastery? Can porn teach someone to become a great lover? Why is the path to mastery is as much strategy as it is skill? What's the ultimate move or skill a man can master in the bedroom? Why is knowing when to pivot so important? And how does getting creative with different archetypes lead to different moods in the bedroom? Repeat guest and sexual master Erik Everhard answers all this and more. About our guest: Erik Everhard is an author, men’s coach, and former adult film star who specializes in teaching men to recognize and master the primary cues responsible for making 85 percent of women reach the holy grail of sexual interactions: orgasm. His teachings are grounded in practical knowledge, mental tactics, and strategic positions. Holding a master’s-level certification in neuro-linguistic programming and having more than 5000 real-world sexual interactions with women allows him a unique perspective which enables his clients to overcome

Can penis owners really have multiple orgasms in one sexual experience? If so, why have so many men never experienced it? What are the pleasure benefits of learning to have multiple orgasms? Are there health benefits as well? How can penis owners learn to have multiple orgasms? Is it hard to do? And where do they start? What if someone starts to practice learning how to have multiple orgasms but isn’t seeing any shifts. And what if my penis owning partner is multi-orgasmic and I (say a pussy owner) am not. Can I learn to have multiple orgasms the same way they can? Repeat guest Destin Gerek answers all this and more. About our guest: Destin Gerek is a globally recognized author, speaker, and coach in masculinity, sexual self-mastery, and personal empowerment. Destin is the founder and CEO of The Evolved Masculine, a pioneering coaching and training company for men, and author of the best-selling book The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs, and The One She Craves. He routinely writes and lectures on

Fan girl moment! In this episode we interview one of our idles, Tristan Taormino. We learn all about her life from her upbringing to what lead her to become a trailblazing feminist pornographer and why she's proudly known as Butt Girl. Tristan also shares advice for folks who want to watch ethical porn, as well as how to navigate shame around being turned on by rough or objectifying imagery or fantasies. Get ready to laugh, learn, and listen to an inspiring life story! About our guest: Tristan Taormino is a writer, speaker, sex educator, and host of the podcast Sex Out Loud. A former syndicated columnist for The Village Voice, she is the author of numerous books, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, and her recent memoir A Part of the Heart Can’t Be Eaten. She is the founding editor of the annual Best Lesbian Erotica anthologies, editor of The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Ed

In this playful and deliciously provocative episode brilliant writer, sex expert and activist Zachary Zane joins us to discuss all things bisexuality. We dive into everything from the differences between bisexuality to other orientations to Zachary's own journey in uncovering and embodying his ultimate bi (and often empowered slutty) self. About our guest: Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He writes “Sexplain It,” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health, and “Navigating Non-Monogamy,” the polyamorous relationship column at Cosmopolitan. He is editor-in-chief of the BOYSLUT Zine, which publishes nonfiction erotica from kinksters across the globe. His work has been featured in New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Playboy, and more. To learn more go to zacharyzane.com Pre-order our book n

How can mindfulness lead to more pleasure, better orgasms and deeper connection with lovers? Is meditation the same as mindfulness? How do mindfulness and fantasy work together? Can I be present and fantasize at the same time? What are some key tips and tools for mastering mindfulness in the bedroom? About our guest: Keeley Rankin received her master’s degree in Counseling Psychology. She’s trained in Hakomi Therapy and Recreation of the Self. She specializes in facilitating deep erotic connections for couples and has been featured in media outlets such as the Huffington Post and Oprah Magazine as an expert in male sexual struggles where she created a Premature Ejaculation Mastery Video Course for men to learn to last longer in bed from the privacy of their own home. To learn more visit keeleyrankin.com Pre-order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com and get free access to our online workshop How to Pamper Your Partner for every book preorder (offer/workshop is exclusive to preorders). Other links: Get turned

What is codependency, where does it come from, and how does it show up in both casual and long term relationships? How can people work on their codependency? What about dating? What are some of the top mistakes people often make when dating while really wanting a relationship? What if I'm casually dating while looking for my longterm partner? Are there top do's and don'ts...like should I not have sex on the first date? And what do I do if I meet someone I want to dive deeper with? How and when should I share this with them, and how can I manage my fear or feelings of rejection? About our guests: Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist, life coach, author of Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love. She helps people cope with codependency, love addiction, narcissistic abuse, and mental health issues. As a leading expert on codependency and toxic relationships, Sherry’s TV appearances include: Vh1’s Celebrity Rehab, CNN, Inside Edition, the

In the last couple of week's we've talked about sexless relationships and how to keep the fire burning in long-term partnerships, and now we are continuing the conversation with the hilarious and knowledgable Horny Housewife - specifically on "sex ruts". What is a "sex rut", why does it happen, and what can couple's do to get out of it? How can implementing sexual fantasies shift the rut? Why is “dating your spouse” so important? And does batin' aka self-pleasure really help with sex ruts and lead to better sex? About our guest: Jordyn Hakes is a Washington-based sex and marriage expert, wife, mom, and host of the top-ranking podcast, The Horny Housewife. Through her quick-witted humor and no-nonsense approach to sex and relationships, Jordyn offers listeners an honest and open look into the complexities of sex, marriage, society, and culture. She is passionate about helping others find more pleasure and playfulness in their relationships and sex lives while creating an inviting and supportive environment whe