Sexology

  Welcome to episode 151 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Shane Birkel to the podcast. In this episode he speaks with me about relationship challenges that affect sexual function, how excitement lessens as bonds deepen and ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation.     Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice near Boston. He works primarily with couples and is a certified Relational Life Therapist with Terry Real as his mentor.     Shane hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch that is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He is the creator of the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership site supporting therapists in their work with couples.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Relational challenges that affect sexual function   How many people don’t realize the negative habits they have that will impact sex in a relationship   Looking at overdependence on our partners for how we

Welcome to episode 150 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am joined by Dr. Robert Glover. In this episode we discuss the Nice Guy Syndrome, the issues nice guys have around sex, and the ways they can change things inside and outside the bedroom.     Dr. Robert Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.     As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships.    Dr

Welcome to episode 149 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Tammy Nelson to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about sexual boredom, contributing factors as to why people cheat, and the concept of new monogamy.     Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a  Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheated,  and the upcoming Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy due out in March.     She is the Director and Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in Washington DC., a training Institute, and Think Tank focused on obtaining and creating sustainable relationships. She is also an expert consultant for Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Time Magazine, and is the host of a popular podcast, The Trouble wit

Welcome to episode 148 of the Sexology Podcast! Today’s episode is a solo episode during which I will respond to listeners’ pre-recorded questions. Here are the questions that I will answer in this episode: Why do so many women have spanking fantasies? How common are BDSM fantasies? How hard should a “normal” erection be? How do I know if I am “hard enough”? What do I do if I can’t get “hard enough”? How can you get your partner to initiate sex more often? How do you ask your partner to have sex without sounding desperate? If you’ve got questions, I have answers! Record your questions here: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/ or email it to drmoali@sexologypodcast.com   Resources mentioned in the episode: Books: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428   Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life  https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958   Articles:  http://

Welcome to episode 147 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about the misconceptions people have around having good relationships, not over compromising in a relationship and finding your voice to communicate what you really want to your partner.     CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples.     They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others.     They also run tr

Welcome to episode 146 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about sex and disability, the effect a chronic illness or physical disability will have on a person's sex life, and sex tips for individuals and couples.     Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr. (pronouns: he, him, his) is currently a third-year doctoral student in counseling education and supervision at the University of North Texas. Jose’s research is focused on clinical interventions for interabled couples in couples’ and sex therapy. Specifically, Jose focuses on the adjustment process after one partner acquires a disability. Jose provides individual, couples, play, and family therapy with a special focus in working with disabled people in three languages (English, Spanish, and American Sign Language) at a private practice.     Jose has spent time working with interabled couples at a private rehabilitation setting for people with brain injuries (TBI

Welcome to episode 145 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about using BDSM as a form of self-care and finding your healthier self, and provides recommendations on where to get started.     Elizabeth “Liz” Newsom, LCSW, is a sexuality/intimacy therapist/educator specializing in working with individuals who identify as kinky and/or consensually non-monogamous (poly, swingers, etc.); those who identify as gender non-conforming and/or have questions about sexuality; as well as those who need assistance with issues such as depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, communication/anger/intimacy issues and much more. In addition to standard individual, family and relationship counseling, Liz is currently expanding her practice to include supervising and training new therapists with her sex positive inclusive therapeutic approach.     For the last few years she has been providing community/professional educatio

EP144 - Getting Off Without Checking Out with Jessica Graham   Welcome to episode 144 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jessica Graham to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about incorporating fantasy in a healthy way, how sexuality is connected to spirituality, and using mindfulness to increase your desire   Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker.   As a gift to Sexology listeners, Jessica is offering one month free on Simple Habit!   Trial Code: WILDAWAKENING First, sign-up for Simple Habit at http://www.simplehabit.com Usin

Welcome to episode 143 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dalychia Saah to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about allowing yourself to have more pleasure, why we struggle to connect with our bodies and finding your erotic voice.    Dalychia Saah (she/her) is a sexuality educator, professor, writer, and speaker. Through her words and work, Dalychia facilitates space for people to connect deeper with their desires for their body, relationships, life, and our world. She is passionate about people unlearning oppressive norms that are externalized, inter-personalized, and internalized that keep us from moving towards a more liberated way of being. Dalychia believes that systematic forms of oppression can be overthrown by a reclamation of intra- and interpersonal power.     Dalychia is the co-founder of Afrosexology, a pleasure based sex education platform that creates educational content and workshops to center the pleasure, empowerment, and liberation of Black people.  A

Welcome to episode 142 of the Sexology Podcast! Today's episode is a solo episode where I discuss fantasizing about others while you're in a relationship, understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship, the way our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue, and how this is a very common issue for lots of couples.    In this episode, you will hear:     Is it normal to fantasize about someone else while in a relationship?  The importance of communication and dialogue when defining the parameters of your relationship   The stigma attached to non-monogamous relationships   How our sub-conscious plays a role in this issue   Recognizing obsessional thoughts and what to do with them   Being true to your own values   Learning to not judge yourself for having certain thoughts   Removing yourself from situations where you might regret a decision later, e.g. drinking at a social event   Understanding from the fantasy what you want more of in your relationship   The

Welcome to episode 141 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Tara Galeano, L.P.C., CST to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about the challenge's women face in regaining sexuality during and after cancer treatment, incorporating a holistic approach with feminine energy and the first steps women can take to regain their sexuality.    Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer. For the past five years, she has taught this class at Boulder Community Health.     Currently, she is creating an online course based on this class to make the content more accessible to women everywhere. Tara is also inspired by her studies of Ayurveda, Sanskrit, and being a grandmother. She is currently writing a book based on the Rediscovering My Body class, so she may share widely with all those that are s

Welcome to episode 140 (a) of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m pleased to welcome Susan Bratton to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sex toys, why couples are using them, how they can add sex appeal and changing the sexual dynamic of a relationship with a sex toy.     Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships.     Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.     Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”      Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube ch

Welcome to episode 140 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about working with non-traditional couples, the sexual challenges they face and understanding what it means to be kink aware.     Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years' experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking. Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients.    In this episode, you will hear:     The non-traditional relationship Stefani sees in her pra

Welcome to episode 139 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about his new book (adultADHDbook), navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through, creating fairness and managing expectations and how an overall good relationship balance will lead to great sex.    Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the survey Dri Ari conducted for his new book   Do men with ADHD experience more desire than women?  Navigating the challenges that couples with ADHD will go through   The role medication plays in this issue   Distractions during sex, looking at keeping focused and in the zone  

Welcome to episode 138 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I welcome Michael Vigorito to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about out of control sexual behaviour, examining the driving force behind it and understanding the best practices to deal with this issue.    Mr. Vigorito is a sex therapist, author and consultant.  As a psychotherapist, he provides individual, couples and group psychotherapy for a range of sexual and behavioral health concerns. He developed a sexual health assessment and treatment protocol with Douglas Braun-Harvey, which was published in Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Rethinking Sex Addiction (2016) (SSTAR 2018 Health Professional Book Award Winner).      As a sexual health consultant for Behavioral Health Systems Baltimore and University of Maryland - Prevention Research Center, Mr. Vigorito designed and implemented capacity-building initiatives to integrate sexual health into mental health and substance use disorder treatment. These programs offered trainings

Welcome to episode 137 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about what men can do to last longer in bed, the underlying issues of premature ejaculation and techniques that men can learn to help with this issue.     Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.     She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world    In this episode, you will hear:     What can men do to last longer in bed?  Simple and effective techniques men can use   Understanding how your style of masturbation wi

Welcome to episode 136 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where I discuss how you can change your sexual schema.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you change your schema of sex?   A personal story from Nazanin to help further unpack this issue   How a lack of sex education impacted Nazanin’s life   The conflicting messages on sex from society and religion   How these messages become instilled as part of your development   The feelings of guilt from wanting to experience sex   The importance of values within acceptance commitment therapy   Analyzing your own biases around sex   Challenging the myth that you need to be married to have good sex  Taking a look at alternative rebellion   Writing down your own sexual thoughts and stories to help further express your sexual feelings        Resources  https://sexologypodcast.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression:

Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.     Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.     She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do yo

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones.  Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.   For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.    In this episode, you will hear:   The benefits of self-pleasure   Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure   What is p

Welcome to episode 133 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile dysfunction, the steps leading to a penile prosthesis and how the penile prosthesis works.    Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD, is a specialist in complex surgical reconstruction of the male urinary tract, male urinary incontinence, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, urethral stricture disease, and Peyronie’s Disease. He joins the USC Institute of Urology after completing his urology residency at USC and further fellowship training in male genitourinary reconstructive and prosthetic surgery under Dr. Stuart Boyd, a world-renown reconstructive cancer surgeon and authority on reconstruction of the lower urinary tract and urologic prosthestics.      Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Loh-Doyle completed his undergraduate and medical school education in the prestigious Baccalaureate/MD program at the Ke