Sexology

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to us about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.     Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.     Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.     Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to me about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients a

Welcome to episode 90 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb who speaks to me about what adult age play entails, how shame and embarrassment surround this issue and how a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue.     Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL.    She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.     Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality

Welcome to episode 89 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about the issue of low desire and the steps you can take to improve your sex life even if you have low desire.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common factors that contribute to low libido  Understanding whether your issue is more psychological or physiological   How relationship issues affect low desire   Understanding that sex is not perfect and that it’s ok not to be on your A-game every time you have sex  Learning to create an erotic environment   Communicating these issues as a couple and learning how to help each other    Resources  http://www.sexologypodcast.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care      Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 88 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Steve Bodansky (he was a guest on episode 59) to the podcast, this time Steve speaks to me about his new book Love and Alzheimer’s, the changes that Steve and his wife Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s.     Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Master’s in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.     Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Wel

Welcome to episode 87 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Sonalee Rashatwar who talks to us about the concept of sexual colonization and what it means, the ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body” and what we can do to create more body inclusive sex education.   Sonalee Rashatwar (she/they), MSW, LCSW, MEd is an award-winning social worker, sex therapist, adjunct lecturer, and grassroots organizer. Based in Philly, she is a fat queer nonbinary therapist working as a sexual violence crisis counselor, specializing in treating sexual trauma, body image issues, racial or immigrant identity issues, and South Asian family systems, while offering fat and body positive sexual healthcare.   Popularly known as TheFatSexTherapist on Instagram, their fame hit an all time high when they were featured on Breitbart in March 2018 for naming thinness as a white supremacist beauty ideal. Sonalee is a sought-after speaker who travels nationally

Welcome to episode 86 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about a listener’s email around the subject of masturbation and why her husband still feels the need to masturbate whilst in a marriage.      In this episode, you will hear:     How wanting to have separate fantasies away from the relationship can lead to more masturbation   The stigma around this issue, studies have shown very few women know their partners masturbate frequently   Why sexual boredom can increase masturbation frequency   How masturbation can be used as a self-regulator for relief   Understanding that this is a very common issue, but there is currently limited studies and data to know more   Steps that can be taken to address this issue     Resources  http://www.sexologypodcast.com  https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2014.958790 https://site.themarriagebed.com/sexuality/masturbation/solo-masturbation-in-marriage/ https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

Welcome to episode 85 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, we are joined by Midori who talks to us about how she began her journey into sex education, learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually and recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom.    Midori is a renowned sexuality educator, author, and artist based in San Francisco. She emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought-after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfilment, and kinky adventures.    Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills but in her ability to deconstruct and distil complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed ind

Welcome to episode 84 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Timothy Wienecke who talks to us about the way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service, how masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways and the importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues.   Timothy Wienecke has spent the last decade training and educating in a variety of settings on a broad range of topics. He got started as a primary trainer for various technical positions as a Signals Analyst working with the NSA. That is where he realized he enjoys giving people the skills and knowledge they need to be effective in the places that are important to them. Timothy's command noticed his passion and tapped him for a more delicate and difficult task to be a primary trainer for the Air Force’s Bystander Intervention program. There he spent the next three years training over 3000 Airmen how to notice and engage effectively to stop harassment and sexual assault before it happens. I

Welcome to episode 83 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. who talks to us about the common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery, the difference between healthy sex and addictive sex and incorporating your values into your sexuality.     Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and the recipient of the 2018 IITAP Leadership and 2012 Carnes Award. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist/Supervisor and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist/Supervisor specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction and other sexual disorders.     Dr. Katehakis is author of Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan (2018), Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (2016), co-author of the 2015 AASECT awa

Welcome to episode 82 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Christine Macinnis who speaks to me about she became interested in working with transgender people, the best ways and practices we can all support transgender people and the issues they face when coming out.    Due to over 20 years working in local schools as a school counselor, Christine brings a unique perspective to her work in private practice. She loves assisting the adolescent through the trials of depression, anxiety, school and learning issues, gender and sexual identity confusion, and the adjustment to college and launching from their family.     In addition to her work with teenagers, Christine has a passion for the challenges and celebration of sexual and gender identity for all age groups. As a Certified LGBT-Affirmative Psychotherapy Provider, she has supported several transgender clients and families as they progress through the process of transition and acceptance. In terms of support outside of our sessions, Christine

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to share some personal and revealing stories about my own experience with sex therapists.     In this episode, you will hear:     How difficulties with sex affected a previous relationship   The ways in which this led to seeking out sex therapy   The difference between sex therapy, sex educator, sex surrogate and sex coaches   How our educational systems lack good information on sex   The need for patients to understand what it is they want to work on   Understanding what can get in the way psychologically to stop you experiencing pleasure   How it’s ok to receive sex therapy as a couple or on your own   Knowing how to choose the right sex therapist for you     Resources  https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   https://oasis2care.com/torrance/find-right-therapist-los-angeles-ca/  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasi

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who joined me on episode 79. In this episode, we talk about the fidelity agreement, how technology is changing our fidelity agreement and what gets in the way of having these conversations?    Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What is a fidelity agreement?  How what is considered cheating for some couples, isn’t for others   The need for independence on your thoughts and desires   How is technology evolving our fidelity agreement?  Making a sustainabl

Welcome to episode 79 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Ari Tuckman who talks to us about Teledildonics, the common ways people use this technology and what the future will hold as this technology continues to grow.     Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What does Teledildonic mean?  The huge variety of technology for remote sex where tactile sensations that’s now available   How Teledildonics could help prevent cheating   The common ways people use this technology   Ways in which to incorporate Teledildonic to increase novelty in

Welcome to episode 78 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Jennifer Weeks. In this episode, Dr. Weeks talks us about pornography addiction along with discussion on evidence-based treatments for out of control sexual behaviors. Also, we evaluate the differences between healthy and unhealthy reliance on pornography as a method for mood regulation.   Dr. Jennifer Weeks is the founder and director of Sexual Addiction Treatment Services, an out-patient treatment program for out of control sexual behavior. She has over twelve years experience treating all aspects of addiction, trauma and addiction, sexual addiction, and sex offenders. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist- Supervisor, Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Ph.D. in Psychology. Dr. Weeks is the author of the blog, Dr. Jen’s Recovery Readings as well as the prevention book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen about Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age.  

Welcome to episode 77 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Marie-Claire Thauvette who talks to us about what inspired her to write the book "Honeymoon Playbook", why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex and learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements.    Marie-Claire Thauvette is a familiar face in the industry, and has been featured on many podcasts, summits, radio and television shows. Her new book “The Honeymoon Playbook” is a best seller in 3 categories, and with it has really helped new and not so new couples spice up their lives in and out of the bedroom.    She is also a successful entrepreneur, professional educator, and woman on a mission: to teach individuals and couples alike about the power of intimacy, sex and communication – and how to have FUN doing it. MC combines her over 30 years of teaching experience and her AASECT and ISEE Sexual Educator certifications to reignite passion in singles and couples.   

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.     Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy.    Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.     When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same.    In this episode, you

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.     Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist.    After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of je

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.     Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour.    In this episode, you will hear:     The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area   How stress levels have impacted our sexuality   The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality   Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship   Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness  The ways in which

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters.    Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs.    She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Co

Welcome to episode 72 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Alice Little who is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, she is 4ft 8 and works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.       Alice writes advice articles for She Knows Media and has been a guest on the Tim Ferriss Show. She has been interviewed and featured by CNN, ABC’s Nightline, Re nery29, Quartz, Shane and Friends, and other podcasts and news outlets. She is a proponent of sex positivity and women’s rights and has marched for equality. Alice is also one of the founders of the “Hookers for Healthcare” movement, petitioning the government for effective health care that works for everyone.    Alice frequently sees couples in and out of the bedroom, coaching them on how to enhance their relationships, increase the quality of their communication, and help bring intimacy back into their interactions. She hosts a weekly vidcast titled ‘Coffee with Alice,’ where she discusses sex work, fields questions, and aims to inform on all thing