Beyond Good Intentions With Kristen Duke

Cali and I went to Miami for her Spring Break, and had so much fun! In this episode, she joins me to share a few stories I thought you'd benefit from hearing about invalidating your teen (she called me out!) I shared at the end a secret project I'm working on, email me to know more! kristen@kristenduke.com 

If you want to SEE differently, and willing to DO differently, send me an email with the subject line "I want to SEE!" to kristen@kristenduke.com I'm here to help. (I've been there!)

If this episode struck a cord with you, join me and watch the mom reset:  https://kristenduke.com/reset  When your teen lashes out, you have a choice: You can react—or you can guide. Let me guide YOU how to do differently. 

Listen for what NOT to do when your teen doesn't get invited (and mam bear comes out!) and you want to reach out to their friends moms to convince them to make it all better.  Conversation. Connection. Confidence building. All that adds up to TRUST! In this episode, I shared about the new Teen Chat Cards all about FRIENDS with 50 scenarios for you and your teen to chat through, grab them here: https://members.kristenduke.com/friends-teen-chats/   

Sharing a story when "mama bear" came out swinging when my teen complained about a friend and then defended them because of my response.  If you didn't already download the free CALM CREATOR guide, do that here: https://kristenduke.com/calmcreator/  In this episode, I shared about the new Teen Chat Cards all about FRIENDS with 50 scenarios for you and your teen to chat through, grab them here: https://members.kristenduke.com/friends-teen-chats/  Conversation. Connection. Confidence building. All that adds up to TRUST!

How you downloaded the free calm creator yet?  Grab that here: https://kristenduke.com/calmcreator/ Sharing an embarrassing story about myself in order to help you remember a very important tip to better address conflict.  Also sharing more about this on Instagram this week: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/   

Sometimes people get confused when I say the goal is to earn teens trust, so I'm elaborating a bit on that here, (and what it's NOT) as well as summarizing 5 of the biggest parenting blindspots.  The TRUSTED Challenge starts Monday, January 13th! https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Referenced a few videos on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/

Sharing thoughts on how we have had family scripture study over the years, and the benefits of memorizing scriptures both for your teen and your family. Check out the scripture memorization cards here: https://members.kristenduke.com/doctrinal-mastery-cards/ Coming soon: share light online with 52 weekly prompts throughout the year!

How are you feeling during the holiday season? Many moms feel extra frustrated when they feel their teen might not feel deserving of Christmas kindness! This one's for you! I'll be sharing micro tips on instagram in the days leading up to Christmas, so make sure you follow along there... You may be a good fit for the next TRUSTED Challenge on January 13th, check it out!

It can feel very frustrating when grandparents don't agree (and either shame you for doing things different or do it without your consent) so THIS is an important discussion, especially around the holidays! My dad sent me an article that sparked this discussion, and i'm weighing in with some "say this/not that" scenarios in this episode.  January 13th TRUSTED Challenge Chats on Instagram Leave a podcast review, I'd be so grateful! Email me anytime future podcast ideas: kristen@kristenduke.com 

Follow up to last weeks episode on how to TALKE to your teen about your expectations of a little gratitude.... AND what to say/not say examples. Next TRUSTED Challenge is January 13th: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Instagram reel discussed in this episode: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DChJWXXxHZX/ Email me: kristen@kristenduke.com With anything, especially future podcast scenarios you'd like me to dissect! Leave a review if you found this beneficial, share with your friends!

I polled my friends on Instagram and asked how their teen is ungrateful and I got so many responses, I narrowed it dwon to the top 15, which I share here (and you can likely relate to) and I ALSO share how to remedy that with 3 action items. You ready?!?! Email me (kristen@kristenduke.com) or message on instagram with suggestions for future podcast episodes.  https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ Please leave a review on this podcast if you found it helpful!  

Do you feel hopeless in your mother journey because you know you aren't perfect and terrified for the day your adult child comes to tell you you messed them up? Then this episode is for you! If you love this podcast, I'd be grateful for a 5 start review!! Tell me what other topics you'd like me to cover here! Join the TRUSTED Challenge here: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Join the instagram community here: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/ 

How "should" you respond when your teen hurts your feelings? Chatting about that here today! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ If this was helpful or you enjoy the podcast, I'd be grateful for a review!

Having asked on Instagram, what you want to hear episodes about, someone said, "How can I help my teen build confidence" so here we are! We discussed the Confidence conversation cards Trusted Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/

Straight from an Instagram LIVE discussion, where a mom asked: "How do I validate my teenager, I try to tell them all the right things and I still annoy them." Lets chat! I started this episode and less than a minute later, chaos happened in my kitchen, so you can hear the audio, but if you want to see the video, you can watch this episode on youtube here. 

The message I got from a mom recently said this, "My 15 year old got his permit an is eager to drive us around everywhere....{and I'm scared!}" I answered my thoughts on that in this episode! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/  Grab the confidence boosting conversation cards: https://members.kristenduke.com/sales-page-consider-this-cards/   Submit a question on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Submit a question via email: Kristen@KristenDuke.com 

Phones! We love 'em and we love to hate 'em when it involved kids. Phones aren't going away, so learning how to navigate them in a TRUSTED way is always the goal! The question I got from a mom in the community recently went like this:  "How often should you go through your kids phones? When you see thins in their phone that don't align with your values how do you handle it?" I answer in this podcast episode! Join the next TRUSTED Challenge:  https://kristenduke.com/trusted/  Phone Chat cards: https://members.kristenduke.com/sales-page-consider-this-cards/  Submit a question on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Submit a question via email: Kristen@KristenDuke.com 

Is your teen ungrateful or are you just seeking "hits of joy" and don't get the response you were expecting or hoped for? (Hint: It's very normal if this is you!) In this TRUSTED by your Teenager podcast episode, we chat about this in 10 minutes or less! Sharing about an experience when I was a teen, and how I've switched it up with my teenager, even though I've had my feelings hurt before! If you found this helpful, would LOVE you to leave a review on the podcast/episode.  Feel free to reach out on instagram or email with questions you'd like me to cover in the future more in depth. Join our next TRUSTED Challenge here: https://kristenduke.com/trusted/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristendukechats/  Email: Kristen@KristenDuke.com 

In this TRUSTED by your Teenager podcast episode, we chat about what to do if you don't like your teenagers friends. My goal is to give you bite sized tips for teens in under 10 minutes, and this one was under 7!  This is the first time I recorded a YouTube video right alongside this, so if you prefer to watch, you can do that here.  A few simple tips that might surprise you about what you can do if you don't like your teens friend. In this episode, I also mentioned: The TRUSTED Challenge: (you need to join this before you can join the private community, Team Trusted.) I shared that inside that space, we discuss micro details on how to become more TRUSTED and also lessons on tough teen topics such as teens & friends. Also mentioned, Confidence Chat Cards: 50 different scenarios on how to help your teenager boost their confidence.  I'm always grateful when you share my content, comment, like, and if you want to listen on your favorite podcast platform, you can do that here: