Love Wide Open With Heidi Dellaire

I had the pleasure of speaking with Louise Clarke, a Certified Parent Coach about all things parenting involving teenagers. Her book, Parenting The MODERN TEEN:  The secret to understanding, connecting and communicating with your teen in a disconnected, distracted and digital world, is all about raising your teen into a responsible, respectful, reliable, and confident young adult while building a strong connection and relationship with them.  We talk about triggers that are built into us from an early age and how as adults, raising our own children is like playing back old, pre-loaded software. We also discuss a topic near and dear to her, ADHD in teens.  Louise us such a valuable resource to parents. She has a blog series on various topics and a series about ADHD. You can listen to her podcast, Parenting In The Thick Of It on many podcast platforms, designed for busy moms on the go. Check out her new book and many courses that she offers. You can also reach her through her website, YourParenti

 Being mindful of how you treat others can determine what kind of heart space you are opening up to others.  As humans, we carry a powerful darkness within. It is part of the human condition and when triggered it feels so natural we do not even realize when are allowing it enter into our being. When we treat others poorly, we are dehumanizing that person in our brains. Be the seeds of love we need in the world. ~Heidi If you would like to work with me for Heart Space Coaching, you can reach out through the contact form on HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

We are what we believe we are and when we can move past the roadblocks of self-sabotage and understand that we are the creating force behind the kind of life we want to live, we tap into our own magic. Let's talk about believing and creating your own magic. I would love to hear from you about your own magic story. You can reach me through the contact from on either HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. Don't forget to sign up for the newsletter while you are there. If you are using the Anchor.fm app, you can send me a voice message right through the app. Sending lots of love.  ~Heidi --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

  All the negative thoughts, experiences, and situations are absorbed into the spirit, much like unhealthy toxins are absorbed into the body. Do you know how good it feels to stand in the hot shower and let the water run over your face after you’ve been crying? It’s a spiritual cleansing. That’s what we are talking about here. But saying one needs a spiritual cleanse and understanding how to go about achieving the cleanse are two very different things. Before you continue with your cleanse, it is important to note the reasons why you need one. What negative thoughts or feelings do you need to purge so that you can make space for positive thoughts and feelings to fill that space?  You can reach me at HeidiDellaire.com to learn more about my book or my Heart Space Coaching or at LoveWideOpen.com for self-help and self-development articles and my personal blog.  If you use the Anchor app to listen, you can send me voice messages that I may use on future episodes.  Sending lots of love. ~Heidi --- Send in a vo

Are you an empathetic person? If so, you may have run into this problem before. I sure used to before I learned some healthier boundaries. When you take on another person‘s emotions or baggage as your own, it is very easy to lose yourself in the process. Where many empathetic people have a difficult time turning on and off their empathy, it is necessary to a certain extent or else you run the risk of ruining your own life and happiness. So, is your empathy preventing you from living your life?  I would love to hear from you about this episode or anything else that is on your mind. You can reach me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com   If you are interested in my book, Roots and Tendrils, which is my journey back from being too empathetic towards others and not enough towards myself, you can learn more on HeidiDellaire.com  If you are interested in working with me for Heart Space Sessions, reach out through HeidiDellaire.com.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm

 People with a growth mindset have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. According to Dweck, when a student has a fixed mindset, they believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits.  Let's talk about what it takes to have a growth mindset and a positive mindset to move forward in life and learn new things. You can reach me at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidDellaire.com  If you are listening on the Anchor App, you can send me voice messages that may be used in future episodes.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

When we tell our stories, we start to heal. It is through telling our stories that we realize that we are far more alike with others than we are different. I had the pleasure of speaking with Catherine B. Roy, the author of Live From the Heart and Mind.     Catherine B. Roy is a Human Potential Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, Personal Growth and Business Coach, MENSA member and an Award Winning Artist and Scientist whose stimulating, upbeat and inspirational writings have helped countless people in the world.  Catherine’s writings have been published in The Huffington Post, Thrive Global,  and many others. She has been featured as a guest expert at many summits and as a participant and expert speaker at numerous international conferences. Catherine enjoys the distinction of receiving the Top 30 Under 30 award and is an experienced linguistics researcher and is certified in the fields of emotional intelligence and assertive communication.  As the author of the “Live from Your

So many of my clients find themselves in this place in life. Hell, I found myself in this place in life once. We wonder who the hell we are. Why did life get so off track? Is it too late? Can I change it? Do I have the power within myself to do something else?  Well, I am here to tell you, Yes! You do still have power to change your life, you just need to WANT to CHOOSE to change it. It's all up to you. If you would like to speak with me about this episode or want to work with me, reach out to me through the contact form at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.   Have an amazing day and I am happy to be part of your journey. Sending lots of love. ~Heidi --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

I had the pleasure of hearing Elizabeth Gilbert speak on the last leg of her book tour for City of Girls at Memorial Church at Harvard last week. I got up and asked a question about something that Liz talks about a lot...being love in the room. Liz has been an inspiration to me in many ways and has been a part of my journey. Her book Big Magic was the push I needed to understand that Love Wide Open was a big magic idea. I now teach people about love after learning to love myself again. My own book was my love letter to myself and a healing journey. I now coach people on heart journeys. Thanks Liz for all that you do to remind us that love is messy and beautiful and that life was meant to be lived. There are several powerful quotes from Liz in this episode along with the Derek Walcott poem, Love After Love. I also wrote an article about it for my Heart Space Lessons blog on LoveWideOpen.com.  You can find it here https://bit.ly/2Ya3JxN.  If you would like to reach out to me or work with me, you can c

How do you take control of your own life and make it what you want it to be? How do you become who you want to be? We are capable of becoming anything we want to be. It takes practice and diligence. I work with so many clients who get stuck in a self-limiting belief mindset and can't see that they have the ability to CHOOSE what happens next in their lives. They have the responsibility right in their own hands. Understanding that I was capable of anything allowed me to finish my book, Roots and Tendrils.  If you would like to work with me or reach out about this episode, you can find me through the contact form at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com.  You may also leave me a message or become a sponsor of this podcast at Anchor.fm/lovewideopen.  Thank you for listening and doing the work on yourselves to keep growing.  Much love. ~Heidi --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

We have all been through it. We have made mistakes. We have hurt people. What do we do when someone won't forgive us for what we have done to them? Is it our responsibility to try to make them understand and forgive us or do we need to forgive ourselves in the midst of taking responsibility for our actions and say that we are sorry?  I would love to hear more from you. You can find me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. If you are interested in working with me for Heart Space Coaching, reach out through the websites above. Sending lots of love to everyone. Sending out a huge thank you to those who are monetarily supporting this podcast. Your contribution makes a huge difference in the Love Wide Open mission. If you love what is happening here on this podcast, you can support us for future episodes by going to the Anchor App and pledging a monthly amount.   Supporting a Podcast: To support a podcast from its Anchor profile, click ‘Support this podcast’ at the top of the page. What to do next:

Substance abuse is a topic that comes up a lot with clients, whether it be their personal addiction or the addiction of someone they love.  Whether the addict in your life is a partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, maintaining a relationship with a person with a substance abuse issue will present challenges for you. If you love someone who abuses drugs or alcohol, their dependence becomes an unavoidable part of your life.  Don't forget to subscribe or follow on whatever platform you are listening on so that you don't miss another episode. If you are listening on the Anchor app, you can leave me a message that may be used or read in a future episode. I can also be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com  I look forward to hearing from you. Be gentle with yourself, always. <3  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

In the last two episodes, I have discussed negative and positive self-talk.  In this episode, I discuss how to put positivity into action and the practices that you can put into place to obtain a more positive mindset. If you are listening on the Anchor app, you can send me a message that may be read or played on a future episode. Thank you for listening and I can be reached through the contact form at LoveWideOpen.com  or HeidiDellaire.com Want to Attract more Positivity in your life? Check out my mini-course Attracting Positivity through Gratitude and Appreciation. courses.heididellaire.com/p/gratitude-appreciation-challenge  I love this mini-course and you get to chat with me inside the course. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

Words have power. We can either use negative words or positive words. Negative words hold us back. Positive words propel us forward. The language we use with ourselves internally and with the world at large have a major impact on who we become. They can keep us struggling or they can empower us to strive for high achievement and a better life for ourselves and the world. There is power in getting into a routine or habit of positive self-talk.  Let me know what your words of positivity are going to be for yourself. If you would like to work with me, I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Don't forget to subscribe or follow the podcast on whatever channel you are listening so that you don't miss another episode.  Want to Attract more Positivity in your life? Check out my mini-course Attracting Positivity through Gratitude and Appreciation. courses.heididellaire.com/p/gratitude-appreciation-challenge  I love this mini-course and you get to chat with me inside the course. ---

Sometimes we aren't even aware that we have a negative internal dialogue that can also spill out to the Universe and become our reality. Negative words and thoughts become what we are.  If we believe we aren't good enough, then we aren't. The things we think and speak are important to our stagnation or our growth. Let's discuss those negative words and phrases and touch upon how to slowly shift that around.   If you are listening on Anchor, you can send me a message via the app, if you are listening on Apple Podcasts, I would love your honest review. Don't forget to subscribe or favorite so that you don't miss another episode. I can also be reached at HeidiDellaire.com or at LoveWideOpen.com  Want to Attract more Positivity in your life? Check out my mini-course Attracting Positivity through Gratitude and Appreciation. courses.heididellaire.com/p/gratitude-appreciation-challenge  I love this mini-course and you get to chat with me inside the course.  --- Send in a voice messag

If you knew you had one week to live, what would you do differently with your time? If it is different than your every day life, it is time to dig deeper. Let's talk about how death teaches us how to live instead of wasting our precious gift of life.  If you are listening on Anchor, you can send me a message about this episode or any previous episode. If you are listening on  Apple Podcasts, please leave your honest review of this podcast. There is a poem in my book, Roots and Tendrils, that speaks to this topic called "Life". I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Thank you for your support.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

Why are we so quick to fear change? Why do we get anxious about the things we can't control?  Change, often, brings us amazing periods of growth. So what must we do to embrace change and put fear aside?  I would love your feedback on this episode or any other episode. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts or another platform that allows reviews, I would also love your review. I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

So many of us push away our discomforts and opt to stay only in our comfort zones. What we are ultimately doing is pushing away those things that we need to work through from past hurts, traumas or faulty beliefs. When we lean into the discomfort and allow ourselves to heal our "stuff", we free ourselves and allow are hearts to be more open. And when our hearts are more open, so are our minds and vice versa.  Don't forget to subscribe and review if your listening platform allows it. Thank you.  If you have questions or comments about this episode or other episodes, I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

Many of you have heard me talk about chasing joy after getting out of a toxic relationship. I have made a few videos about it on both the Love Wide Open Channel on YouTube and also Love Wide Open on Facebook. How do you do it? How do you rebuild your life after losing yourself and giving yourself away to a toxic connection with someone else. It takes a lot of hard work and effort but it starts with getting back into doing the things you love and spending time with the people who love you.  There are numerous articles about it on LoveWideOpen.com. If you have any questions about this episode or want to work with me, I can be reached through either LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message

Just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are going to be able to receive it. You can't save someone with your love. Only they can save themselves. When we squeeze too hard, we can squash the love we are trying to give away and then it just becomes toxic for both parties involved. You can find me on LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Please reach you about this episode or something you would like to hear about.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healyourstory/message