Preston Moore: Thoughts, Attitudes & Behaviors

This morning was a weird one. I was carrying this nervous energy with me. Some people would call it, waiting for the shoe to drop, some people would call it anxiety, I often refer to it as nervousness. In my breath work and meditation this morning I discovered it was all rooted in fear. I have a couple of things I need to talk to my boss and my wife about and I’m worried I might not get what I want or I’m might get some pushback. Some of you know, one of my favorite 12 step fellowships is called ACA, adult children of alcoholics and dysfunction. Something they talk quite a bit about is this fear of authority figures. These can be our parents, bosses, the police, family members or even our spouses. Even when I don’t need to, I’ll armor up and get defensive when I’m talking to these people in my life. And you better believe that when I’m not in my right mind, boy do I create some conflict. Most of the time, I’m the creator of my own problems. However I love blaming you for it! One of the biggest symptoms of thi

Deep rooted feelings are interesting. They are often very difficult to diagnose. Often, emotions like guilt, shame, insecurity, low self-worth, are so deep that we don’t even think they effect us. We have come to operate from a place that is so common for us, that it feels normal. So when someone asks you, “do you feel guilty?” For many people the answer is “no way. I mean sure I feel guilty sometimes but it’s not overwhelming or all the time”. We’ll, I feel guilt a lot. It resides in my belly. It sometimes feels hot and almost always presents as feeling nervousness, worry, or possibly the effects from a ton of caffeine! Some might call it anxiety. I don’t necessarily identify with that phrasing but many do. On this episode, I’m going to share an experience I had today that got me out of my head, into my body, and unlocked something deep… I cried.. I like deep sh*t. And I’m finding that it’s in the depths and darkness where many of the answers lie. Most would prefer to stay in the light (myself included), in

At any given moment, I get caught up in all the things I think I need to do, the person I think I need to be, or any of the other things I think I need. The truth is, I don’t need to do any of it. We I am diligent in my inner work, the “things” that are important in the moment rise to the top. Whatever I’m supposed to do that day becomes apparent and it’s easy to decipher. I don’t need to get caught up in who I think I need to be or even more insidious, who you think I should be. If you know anyone that would find this message valuable, be sure to share it with them. And as always, give us a follow on your favorite podcast platform. You can find us at K Preston Moore Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/highcostofanonymitypodcast/?ref=share Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kprestonmoore/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/65h0V990cXBZZ9Op20hYjA?si=NJTW7xS4STSKAOTY46HrFg Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/

What a small world it is. Sarah and I went for a walk this morning and I was telling her about my experience with breath work. From the deep and intense breath work I did at a men’s retreat a few weeks ago, the podcast I listen to recently, and my commitment to 90 days of daily breath work. And she said, funny you mention that because I’m meeting a life in breath work coach soon for coffee and we’re going to do a two hour breath work session together in January. Funny that! The coach has an article in the 614 magazine which is a local Columbus Ohio magazine in that she talks about being introduced to breath work through her husband, who did a Wim Hof retreat. Which, is who I was introduced to breath work through, Wim Hof, the ice man! In my prayer and meditation session I asked myself, what is it that I need to know right now. The message that came to me was, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. I know that intellectually, but boy does it feel good when I believe it in my bones, right in the moment. If y

For a while now, I have had a yearning for deep emotional connection to my childhood and the stories I’ve been unknowingly living by. Particularly, those stories that don’t serve the man I was created to be. It started with venturing into the 12 step fellowship called ACA, hiring a therapist to do EMDR, attending Mkp men’s groups, then IFS therapy in most recently a men’s retreat and discovering breath work. All of these are active experiential modalities. I’m going to commit to 90 days of breath work from a couple I heard on an Aubrey Marcus podcast. Although it’s pretty out there you should check them out. I’ll keep you posted on my progress. If you know someone that would benefit from hearing this message, be sure to share it with them. And as always, we love you! Inhale Love, Exhale Pain w/ Lukis Mac & Hellé Weston #338 Aubrey Marcus Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inhale-love-exhale-pain-w-lukis-mac-hell%C3%A9-weston-338/id521945322?i=1000543583364 Connect with us at K Preston Moore Ins

Have you ever shared something that is true but after you say it, you get really uncomfortable with people knowing that about you!? Well, this is one of those episodes. Today, I talk about a hang up I have with hearing feedback from people that are too close to me… ie: family. And talk about the value of experiential personal development versus intellectual personal development. And, I give my wife some shine. I know what she does for a living, I know she helps people everyday, but I’ve never been able to experience what Sarah does without this weird biased lens that I typically see her through. Yesterday I watched a video of her leading a group through one of her experiential PumpUp sessions and I was shocked at how good it was. As always, we would love to hear from you. If you know someone that would benefit from hearing this message, be sure to share it with them. And give us a follow for reading on your favorite podcast. We love you. You can find Sarah at @moore.soul.sessions https://instagram.com/moore.s

A little about church. Although my skin crawls at times, I enjoy the environment, energy, and a message that is broad enough for even me to fit in. Last week the message was about Abraham and how he followed what he felt God called him to do and the promise of a son. It took much longer than he expected but what happened was greater than he could’ve imagined. Like the reality in most peoples life. Often I fantasize about the quick fix or a life hack or shortcut. However, the reality is much more like the slaying slug. Slow but when you look back, you’re often slay’n that shizz! If you know anybody that should hear this be sure to share it with him. And as always we’d love to hear from you. K Preston Moore Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/highcostofanonymitypodcast/?ref=share Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kprestonmoore/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/65h0V990cXBZZ9Op20hYjA?si=NJTW7xS4STSKAOTY46HrFg Apple

I was on a group call last night in the idea hit me, I’m going to do 30 episodes in 30 days. I’m not exactly sure where the inspiration came from but I can tell you this, it’s super annoying to be introduced to someone new as a guy that has a cool podcast, then having to explain why I haven’t been putting out new podcast episodes, lol! I’m not exactly sure what’s going to come out of this commitment however, I do know it works. It works in changing my thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It works in creating new habits. It works in discovering if I like some thing or not. It works in building confidence. It works in pushing through adversity. It works in changing ____fill in the blank____. The number one thing I tell families, spouses and anyone that asks about how to help someone they care about, “the best way to help (your daughter, spouse, friend, parent) is to change you”. If you want them to go to counseling, you start going to counseling, if you have a person struggling with addiction, start go

20 years ago today I started a journey I never wanted to be on. September 9, 2001 was the last day I drink any alcohol or used mind and mood altering drugs. I woke up on September 10 of 2001 saying to myself, I don’t think I’m an alcoholic or drug addict but I’m willing to take a look. Besides, my probation officer says, if you don’t stop, I’m sending you to jail, lol! Turns out, it was the best decision of my life. Thank you to all the people who have made an impact on my life over the last 20 years. Thank you to all the people they gave me an opportunity to serve as a support in your life. Thank you to all the people that walked this path before me. Lastly, thank you for opening my eyes to the possibility of a relationship with a power greater than myself and a life beyond my wildest dreams. I love you! K Preston Moore Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/highcostofanonymitypodcast/?ref=share Linkedin: https://www.linkedi

There’s this funny thing that happens for me in almost every situation; I subconsciously rank myself against everyone around me. Am I smarter than them or they smarter than me? Do they have it figured out or do I have it figured out? Are they right or am I right? Am I better than them or am I less than them? The reality is, this is a sneaky way for my subconscious to wrestle certainty out of life. Now, I would never have been aware of this much less admitted it if I was. If you asked me, do you think you’re better than or less than other people, I would tell you unequivocally no. We’re all equal and most of my actions would show this. However, underneath the surface, deep in the subconscious, I’m constantly trying to wrestle joy, satisfaction, and certainty out of life by “knowing”. Often, the roots lie in deep insecurity for me. I am constantly trying to figure out if I matter. If I’m enough. If I’ve made good decisions. If I’m going in the right direction. If I have it figured out or if I’m totally clueless

Recently I was watching a YouTube video this guy said in passing, “an idea without a deadline is just a dream. It’s not a goal.” It is not the first time I heard that but this time it hit me straight in the heart. Recently, I’ve had a TON of resistance around goals. Whether it’s because they stress me out or I’m trying to set goals for you or simply because “they” think I should… either way, it doesn’t matter. I decided on Sunday that it’s time for me to start putting things down on paper, telling the people around me, and holding myself accountable to some of the things I’ve been saying I want to do, but not doing them. How does that hit for you? What do you think about that? Let us know on your favorite social media platform or even better, in the form of a rating and review. Connect with us below. You can find Sarah at Mooresoulsessions.com @mooresoulsessions on Insta or via email at sarah@mooresoulsessions.com K Preston Moore Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Face

Have you ever found yourself totally on edge, acting out, and just down right frustrated and not know why? You’ve done all the things, checked in with your support group, gone to some meetings, done some journaling and still, not know what the heck is going on? ME TOO! Recently, I was struggling in a way that wasn’t so obvious. All I knew was, I was annoyed... a lot. However, because of what you all taught me about consistency and continuing to check in, meet with my counselor, going to meetings, and continuing to show up, I’ve had an epiphany. I have a lot of new things going on. Individually, they’re not such a big deal but altogether, it’s a lot. It’s not even that they are bad things. Most everything is good and exciting. However, new experiences can create uncertainty. Also, I think it’s important to point out that often, I think I should not be struggling, I think it should be easier, I think I shouldn’t be feeling anxious with new and exciting things going on. It reminds me of how many people feel as i

Something I talk about quite regularly is, it is not about the decisions you make, it’s about how you go about making them.  In other words, are you making decisions out of fear, shame, or guilt or are you making them out of conviction, certainty, or faith? For me, there is a HUGE difference!  Recently, I made a decision that turned out to be a good one yet, it was deeply rooted in fear and insecurity.  I've been telling you for years that when I grow up, I want to speak, train, and coach.  (Yes, I still don't feel like a grown-up most of the time.) However, I don't seem to make it happen. I have speaking notes for days, I have a short book written, and often, people show interest in having me in to speak to their group and I ghost them (meaning, I don't follow through or follow up). The other night I was listening to the Social Proof Podcast, with David Shands. He was interviewing Jeremy Anderson, one of the top motivational speakers in the country and teaches people how to build a business speaking.  On the

Chaz grew up in a northern suburb of Philadelphia. As a smart kid, he quickly got bored with school and was labeled as one of those that "couldn't pay attention" and was "too hard to manage."  His parents did what many parents would do, they took him to the doctor where he was diagnosed and prescribed medication... as happens all too often. As he got older he started dabbling with other mood and mind-altering substances. One thing that's interesting about Chaz's experience is he doesn't have the typical "down and out" drug addict story. He wasn't a troubled teen in and out of jail or foster care. He didn't have drug-addicted parents. He didn't grow up in a bad neighborhood.  He had a traditional middle-class upbringing. His parents stayed married, he did well in school, went to college, and got into the professional workforce... all while using.  I few things that are interesting to point out in this episode are Chaz's misperception of what having a drug problem looked like, how he viewed prescription drugs v

I’ve been on the path of self-discovery and personal development for almost 20 years now... and I’m still learning! I often fantasize about reaching the mountain top, arms raised, a huge smile on my face, and yelling, I’ve got it all figured out! Doesn’t that sound awesome!? The truth is, just like physical or spiritual health, self-improvement is a lifelong journey. On this episode, I share about a revelation I had about how the tools and strategies I’ve used to keep myself emotionally safe have turned on me. And, my experience with a new type of therapy, internal family systems therapy (IFS) and what I’m learning. Let me know what you think by hitting me on social media or giving the podcast a rating and written review on your favorite podcast platform. K Preston Moore Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/highcostofanonymitypodcast/?ref=share Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kprestonmoore/ Spotify: https://open.spoti

There are two things that have been on my mind in the last week. 1) The number one way to impact those close to you is to... change you first. And 2) How challenging it is navigating the mental and behavioral healthcare system. On this episode I’ll share some real world examples of what it can look like once you decide to get help, how challenging it can be to find mental health and addiction help for the people closest to you and some of the reasons why the stigma is here to stay for a while. Also, I talk about one of the most valuable resources that most people don’t know about... case management. If you know someone that needs to hear this episode, please remember to share it with them. I love you and let me know what you think. You can find us on Instagram @kprestonmoore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/k.preston.moore Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/highcostofanonymitypodcast/?ref=share Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kprestonmoore/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/65h0V990c

My dad passed away 17 years ago and most of that time has been spent, wishing things were different. I wish he was different, I wish he didn’t pass way, I wish I had more time with him, I wish, I wish, I wish. I also blamed him for some of the things I don’t like about myself (Isn't it so much easier to blame other people for your issues instead of looking in the mirror at the person who is really responsible for them!? I do it to, lol). I also found myself focusing a lot on his shortcomings and how I didn’t want to be like him. Over the last few years there’s been a shift. I have to imagine a lot has to do with me becoming a father five years ago. And maybe I'm maturing a bit... At age 40! I've been a lot more grateful for my dad. I pay more attention to the things I love about him, how I wanted to be like him growing up, and all the things he did well. A few things that stand out is how good he was with people, how he was in his element when in a crowd, on stage, or in front of a camera. How he wrote an art

Is there a word, phrase, or topic that really gets under your skin? That when you hear it, your brain comes to a screeching halt and you stop listening? In other words, as soon as someone gets on the topic, you can’t be open to anything else they are saying because you’re stuck on “that word”. For me, one of those words is OBEY. The word obey hits me right in the “don’t tell me what to do” button. It triggers my fear of authority, my rebel without a cause, and you’re not the boss of me attitude... does this sound like a teenage boy talking? Well, I often feel like one!!!  A double button for me is the topic of obeying in the context of religion. I’ve worked really hard at shifting my perspective in this area. There was a time I couldn't stand the sound of anything that even hinted at religion much less be able to step foot in a church. Based on a principle that has served me well over the years, "take what you want and leave the rest", I'm now able to hear messages I don't fully agree with and but am abl

The end of a chapter: Philly. This past weekend we were in Philadelphia to move the rest of our things out of the very first home that we owned in Roxborough. It was definitely bittersweet. When we moved to the East Coast we were bright eyed and bushy tailed, looking to see what the hustle and bustle had to offer. Talk about a culture shock! Narrow streets full of potholes, stop signs and traffic lights on almost ever corner, thirty minute to and hour to get anywhere. The biggest adjustment for me was the no eye contact, don't talk to me, and keep it moving culture. As a southerner, I had a hard time explaining what it felt like for me to a friend from the area. It felt like, being brash and having a chip on your shoulder was a good thing... Even expected. There seemed to be this effort to keep your friend circles tight, don't let anyone see you sweat, and sure as hell don't let anyone think you're weak. Although this is an observation, I can’t say that I blame them. It’s a grind on the East Coast. There are

Can you remember the last time you laughed so hard your stomach hurt the next day? What about, the last time you were overwhelmed with an emotion like gratitude, joy, or elation? I can remember times in my life where my emotions were so muted, I thought my ability to feel truly happy was gone forever. The crazy thing is, I didn't even realize I was settling... Emotionally. In other words, I thought I was happy. I thought I was feeling my feelings. I thought I was grateful. I didn't know that I had gotten so used to stuffing or avoiding my feelings that numb became the norm... And that's without the use of drugs and alcohol! For example, I have a friend of mine that often says her life is at an 8, right after she tells me how depressed she is. She is unaware her 8 is really a 3 or 4. Many people are just like my friend. They have a disconnect between their perception of how they're doing and the true emotional dysfunction they've become so accustomed to. On another note, if you'd like to get some perspective o